Until I handle the legal issues that accompany releasing REAL LEGIT (NOT FUCKING STAGED!!!) videos where Scotty and I hit on REAL chicks for you guys, I want to give you the mindsets and mentalities that go hand-in-hand with the “Screening” GET LAID ‘game’ that we embrace and encourage.
If there is any single word that represents the style, techniques, mindsets (and lifestyle) that we have, it would be- AGGRESSIVE.
In terms of hitting on chicks, in short, being “AGGRESSIVE” means sexually-charged dialogue and physical advances. The later (physical advances) is more important. Everything else is simply small talk. Touching chicks early and often will tell you if she is sexually available and potentially DTF. It’s specifically meant to “screen out” the that girls that aren’t sexually available. In my opinion and experience, it is by far the most efficient and productive style and mindset if you are trying to Get Laid.
Though all the guys we have worked with over the past 2.5 years have different starting points, styles, looks, issues and mindsets- my job is usually the same-
1) Teach them the easiest possible framework to Get Laid on a regular basis and NOTHING more.
2) Clean out ALL of the bullshit, inefficient, unproductive and largely ineffectively mentalities/techniques that clutter their brain and slow down their progress and results.
This discussion on “Be Aggressive, Don’t Worry About Being Smooth,” is characteristic of this.
What is Being Smooth?
Most guys, whether community guys or “normal” (haha) guys, have some sort of definition, image or preconceived notion of what “being smooth” is. There’s no official definition, so I’ll make one up- ‘being smooth’ [as related to mainstream 'game'] is interacting verbally and non-verbally with a girl you want to bang while seemingly avoiding mistakes, noticeable awkwardness and rejection, ideally displaying masculine qualities such as leadership and confidence.
What’s the Problem with Trying to Be Smooth?
If you know what GoodLookingLoser.com is all about (screening), you’ll probably know right away why I’m not really a fan of telling guys they “need” to be smooth, especially when they are just starting out. Masculine qualities, leadership and confidence is fine. The rest of it is largely ‘safe game’. Safe game doesn’t get you laid.
Being smooth, in itself, is certainly not a bad thing.
Trying to be smooth, however, when you should be trying to be aggressive, will slow down your results and development.
Here’s why-
The entire idea of ‘being smooth’ is not quite focused on our goal- GETTING LAID. While its not completely non-congruent, the whole idea of ‘being smooth’ or ‘trying to be smooth’ encourages a lot of mindsets and behaviors that I’m trying to erase from your brain.
For one, “being smooth,” encourages ‘I Hope She Likes Me’ game, where your mindset and the actions which follow are meant to get the girl to “like” you, thereby avoiding or delaying rejection. There are numerous problems with this type of mindset. The biggest one is it keeps you from being aggressive in an attempt to avoid or delay rejection. Also significant- it doesn’t shed any light on if the girl is sexually available. You need to be aggressive and find sexually available girls if you are going to Get Laid a lot. There’s about 789 other problems with the ‘I Hope She Likes Me’ approach and mindset. Mr. Smooth is usually [trying to be] smooth to impress the girl, usually it’s not even his personality (sometimes it is), but 95% of guys trying to be smooth are doing so to get the girl to like them. They’d be better off being aggressive than trying to be smooth, they would get MUCH further MUCH faster. They’d also learn more along the way. It’s hard to be aggressive when you focused on being smooth.
Second, “being smooth,” doesn’t necessarily help you Get Laid. Authentic finesse, or LEGITIMATELY being smooth and physical, can help you Get Laid, but it’s not really necessary. If you are smooth, able to seemingly avoid mistakes, awkwardness and rejection- it is meaningless unless you have a legitimate physical sexual dialogue with the girl. If you are “sloppy” and not smooth, but you have an increasingly physical sexual dialogue with the girl, you are on your way to banging her.
I thought about it recently. I’ve gotten drunk, been discoordinated, been sloppy and nailed more girls than I can (literally) remember. I’ve also been Mr. Smooth, witty, quick on my feet and had interactions go absolutely nowhere simply because there was no physical dialogue and for all I know- the girl wasn’t even sexually available to me or anyone else. It’s hard to be aggressive when you focused on being smooth.
Third, also related to the previous two points, being [or trying to be] smooth, discourages proactive leadership. You will often be on the girl’s timetable, waiting for signs and permission to escalate physically or verbally on the girls. 99% of the time, if you are strictly abiding by the girl’s timetable, you aren’t going to be moving very fast. If you are busy “being smooth,” in a natural attempt to avoid rejection, you will often be less proactive and less physically assertive. Trying to be smooth will make you play “safe game” and safe game doesn’t get you laid. In order to Get Laid a lot, you need to fully embrace the masculine leadership role and have the girl follow. It’s hard to be proactive when you focused on being smooth.
Why Do Guys Think They Need To Be Smooth?
A general misunderstanding of how to Get Laid makes a lot of guys feel that they have to be smooth. I think this is reinforced by the numerous examples in scripted Hollywood movies that try to depict masculine men. Hollywood shows [generally good looking] men “smoothly” interacting with women that already like them and are sexually available. It’s not that these examples are totally “wrong,” they just don’t translate into the aggressive mindsets that are needed to bang HOT girls on a regular basis.
Another reason is that “being smooth” reflects confidence and alpha male qualities. While this is true, so does being aggressive.
How Can I Be Aggressive and Smooth?
Again, ‘being smooth’ isn’t “wrong,” it’s not the first priority.
One thing to keep in mind is ‘being smooth’ is not a mindset, technique or style. Being smooth is simply a product of LEGIT experience of having and executing a repeatable game plan over-and-over.
This is true of nearly anything skill that looks ‘smooth’ or effortless.
I like to give sports examples.
If you’ve ever seen an Olympic swimmer, they look ‘smooth’ as they swim through the water. They move fast, not a wasted motion, not a breath too many- it’s incredible. The only reason they are able to do this is because they have done it 10,000 times in the exact same, repeatable manner. They aren’t not trying to be smooth, what you are seeing is simply a product of executing a repeatable game plan over-and-over. It a product of experience, it is not a technique.
This case might be obvious but the same holds true for hitting on girls. It’s simply experience and a game plan at work.
I like this baseball example-
The best [most smooth] swing I have EVER seen was that of Ken Griffey Jr.
Needless to say, Ken Griffey Jr. hit a lot of home runs. This was his natural swing from the first time he picked up a baseball bat at 6 years old. He wasn’t actively trying to be smooth, he just repeating a swinging motion that he had done for 30 years.
At the same time, there’s guys that hit a lot more home runs than Ken Griffey Jr. They didn’t have as smooth/pretty of a swing, but they hit the ball harder and further than Griffey Jr. If they had tried to be more smooth, they wouldn’t have been hitting as many home runs. There’s a lot of guys that have a very smooth swing that can’t hit the ball out of the infield.
It doesn’t matter how it “looks,” what matters is the RESULT.
Parallel this to picking up girls- I know a lot of “Mr. Smooth” guys that don’t Get Laid that much, they play it safe and aren’t physically assertive. I know a lot of sloppy “naturals” that can get HOT bubble ass every other day because they are aggressive. Don’t mistake “smooth” for good. Sometimes a smooth guy is legitimately good, but sometimes he is not.
While you’re figuring stuff out, being physically aggressive and figuring out your style and not focusing being “Mr. Smooth,” will give you faster progress. Smooth might look good and prevent/delay rejection, but being aggressive gets you laid.
Don’t be smooth, Get Laid.
In order to “get smooth,” you simply have to figure out, refine and embrace your style while being physically aggressive and do it a bunch of times. This sometimes involves trying new things, purely for experimentation.
My Style (and Scotty’s Too)
A lot of my friends have remarked that I’m ‘smooth’ when they see me moving fast with chicks. Again, what they are seeing is a product of experience, not techniques at work or an active effort to be smooth. Grabbing a girl’s hair and pulling it or telling her my dick is big isn’t exactly Mr. Smooth game.
Also, both Scotty and I have a “Laid-Back but Physically Aggressive” style, this is sometimes confused for “being smooth” or having a “smooth” game. It’s NOT being smooth, it’s simply experience and having game plan. You don’t need to be “Laid-Back but Physically Aggressive” to be smooth, you just need to develop your own thing and repeat it over-and-over.
Being Smooth Isn’t In Your Control 90% Of The Time
Yet another reason I don’t want you to focus on being smooth is- it’s out of your control most of the time.
If a girl isn’t sexually-available your interaction isn’t likely to go super smooth.
I saw a good example of this about a year ago at this exclusive club (Playhouse) in Hollywood. I saw a seemingly “super smooth” good looking guy, who probably gets a reasonable amount of ass, approach a super hot girl. He did his little thing and the girl wasn’t very receptive, she kept looking elsewhere and looking another for someone to come and “save her”. The guy, who already had 2 or 3 other girls checking him out, got frustrated and told the girl, “fuck you,” and walked off. It wasn’t his fault though. How do I know? The girl wasn’t sexually available that night. How do I know? Cause I was already fucking her and she came and was going home with me. It had nothing do to do with him. Same thing probably would have happened to me if I approached his girl.
What’s the saying? “It takes two, to tango…?”
Smooth interactions are a product of experience, a repeatable game plan, the girl being sexually available and also a uncontrollable/unpredictable personality chemistry between you and the girl. Half of that is completely out of your control and 90% of the time it’s nothing you could have controlled in the first place.
What The Hell Is This “Game Plan” That You Keep Talking About?
I’m going to expand on this another time. In short, you should have a repeatable game plan EVERY TIME you go out to Get Laid. Having a game plan will take out the guesswork of ‘what to do next’. You can be on auto-pilot and stay focused on your goal- GETTING LAID. If you stick to this game plan, your interactions will go/look smooth if the girl is sexually available. The game plan will vary upon your logistics but it’s generally the SAME EXACT blueprint.
In general, here’s my game plan if I’m trying to Get Laid (in this example, I’m going to this bar that is within walking distance of my place on Sunset Blvd. where I pulled over 30 girls from in a 6-month period)-
1. Approach a girl I want to plow
2. Touch her on the wrist, smile, say the line “Hey, I don’t do this too often, but I thought you were attractive and I wanted to come see what you were like.”
3. Introduce myself
4. Shake her hand, get her name
5. Bodyguard routine
6. Small Talk
7. Grab her bicep “you gotta a license for those guns?”
8. Small Talk
9. Spin around around slap her ass
10. Tell her, it’s hot, lets go over here (grab her hand a start walking to a private place, which I found ahead of time)
11. Small Talk, Get more physical
12. Kiss her
13. Tell her, it’s hot, lets go for a walk
14. Walk right out the front door in the direction of my place
15. Touch her and makeout along the way
16. Tell her, I going to grab a drink so I don’t spend money at the bar, I’ll make you a small one too
17. Take her inside, put her on my bed (either get the drinks or not)
18. Fuck her silly
That seems like a lot of steps, but it’s basically just 4 steps- Screen, Escalate, Isolate+Escalate, Leave.
The rest is just details.
It’s nothing I even have to remember or memorize. I’ve done it in 3 steps too- Screen, Escalate, Leave.
Keep in mind this can happen VERY QUICKLY. Sometimes in a matter of 15-20 minutes. The girl is just following along. Since I have a game plan- I look smooth, quick, spontaneous and masculine. Again, she doesn’t usually resist since I was pretty aggressive and screened her up front with all the physical stuff. I’ve repeated this more times than I can remember (I guessed >30) when I lived just off Sunset Blvd. The game plan lets me stayed focus and takes out the guesswork.
Having a game plan can make stuff go smoothly. It also seems spontaneous to the girl and allows you to lead the way, often very quickly. If you execute your game plan, don’t be surprised if the girl tells you that you are “smooth,” when in reality it’s mainly a product of having experience and a game plan. Emotional healthy hot chicks love being fucked by a seemingly “smooth” guy, so don’t tell them otherwise Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.
I’ll talk more about game plans and logistics later.
Putting together a game plan in advance will help things go smoothly and take out the guesswork.
If you have some good interactions and you’re ‘smooth’… cool. If not, it doesn’t really matter because that’s not your focus anyway.
Focus on being AGGRESSIVE, don’t worry about being smooth.
Jaime Says– SCREEN ME!!!
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I recently saw a comment/critique of GoodLookingLoser.com where a guy suggested that our ‘aggressive’ mindsets and techniques ONLY worked on (and will ONLY work on) “slutty” (aka sexually active and sexually experienced) women.♠
Some guys think- Good, that’s kind of chicks that I want, I’m not into “working on” prudish girls for months at a time.
I have issue this the assertion that being aggressive “ONLY” works on “sluts,” however.
♠ Usually guys make this type of assertion [excuse] so they can try to rationalize why it’s okay for them to not be aggressive and not having balls, so that’s an element in play here. Further, guys that assert that an aggressive approach ONLY lands “sluts” have generally never tried it- simply because real-time experience would show them otherwise. For that mater, guys that assert this have generally not been too successful with women- simply because being “not aggressive” is not very effective, productive or efficient at getting large quantities of women.
My Experience Suggests Otherwise Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.
From experience, I know that this is far from true.
In fact, it’s completely ridiculous, but I know that from doing this “stuff” for years.
I’ve picked up hundreds different girls. As off April 2012, I’ve taken home 114 girls solely from cold approach since I started this shit. 102 of the girls I got from taking a fairly aggressive approach (the remaining [first] 12 were from a Mr. Funny Man approach in early 2009). Some of the girls were experienced, some were less experienced and some were virgins.
Of the 114 girls, I know with 100% CERTAINTY that 13 of girls had never had sex before than their life.
That is slightly over 1 out of 10.
If that isn’t evidence that an aggressive approach doesn’t just work on sluts (aka sexually active and sexually experienced girls) I don’t know what is.
Now, 13 [virgins] out of 114 girls in total, is certainly not a majority. At the same time, if I were to talk to 10 girls (age 19-29) at ANY location in the United States, I’d be shocked if more than 1 out of 10 of them were virgins. So the 10% figure actually seem to possibly line up with real world. Furthermore, if you figure that at least 60 of the 114 cold approach lays came from the Hollywood club scene, than the ~10% virgin rate is actually pretty high. Furthermore too, only 13 of the girls I knew with 100% certainty were virgins- a few girls in the remaining 101 might have been. I have trouble fitting my dick in 99% of virgins. About 1 in 4 girls of the 114 total girls, I had trouble at least some issue with being too thick for their pussy on the first try.
Obviously, I wouldn’t assume that the majority of girls I pickup and sleep with are going to be virgins. But that’s not because I take an aggressive approach, it’s simply because the majority of the girls in world (age 19-29) aren’t going to be virgins. Like I said, if 10% of them were, I’d be surprised.
How On Earth Do Virgins Like You/Respect Your Aggressive Approach?
Most you guys don’t need too much explanation on this.
In short, women are attracted to the same type of characteristics even though their personal “tastes” and experience levels vary,. Masculinity, in the form of confidence is probably the top one. Looks, style, height, sense of humor, sexual vibe and natural personality chemistry are also on the list and are somewhat interrelated part of masculinity. I’ve done this stuff for a while and while it took a while- I exhibit those traits. A lot of these traits are communicated through an aggressive approach. Emotional healthy women are attracted to that, the sexually available women respond particularly well regardless of how many partners they have had previously.
Next, consider this (I learned this from experience, handling shy girls)- I take a 100% leadership role in the entire interaction. I lead, the girl follows or gets lost. That’s how it goes every time. By taking a 100% leadership role, I can move quickly and not actively raise certain decisions or questions that will set off a girl’s “anti-slut defense”. I never verbally or non-verbally propose the question, “I just met you, 25 minutes ago I was a complete stranger, you barely know me, do you want to go to my place and wrap your lips around my genitalia?” That question or thought NEVER enters the girl’s mind because I am the one leading the entire way. She doesn’t have time to think “am I a slut for this?” She doesn’t get the chance to set off her “anti-slut alarm,” because she is excited, in the moment and following my lead.
If a girl is sexually available and digs you- she’ll follow your lead. It doesn’t matter how many or few partners she’s had.
“Sex just happened,” is how the girl feels the following day or if she were to tell her friend about it.
That’s EXACTLY how she wants to feel about it. She wants no active responsibility for initiating sex.
That would make her feel like a slut.
Truth is, it’s completely consensual. No one got seduced. No one got tricked. No one actually regrets it. That why she comes back for more. You guys on GoodLookingLoser.com understand this pretty well. When a girl sleeps with you, you didn’t “successfully trick” her into doing so. That’s seduction. And Seduction doesn’t exist. see: www.seductionmyth.com
♥ of the 114 girls (and others I meant via social circle, work, Internet, etc) NOT ONE refused to answer my text or phone after we had sex. The majority came back for more sex, sometimes for months on end. This is something that I am particularly proud of, maybe more than ANYTHING else that has happened while doing this “player thing”. To retain HOT girls as bed buddies for long time, you have to have lots of stuff together and very little of it has to do with “game”.
What’s a Slut Anyway?
I haven’t really thought too hard about “what a slut is,” if you guys want to provide a definition below, go for it.
Per my definition, a “slut” is- a girl that has or is thought to have an above average amount of sexual experience or loose sexual “morals” as compared to a hypothetical standard. Regardless of actual sexual experience, a girl can be labeled as a “slut” for simply flirting with/attracting guys more than the other girls in her social circle.
On a slightly related note, a lot of people think they can identify how much sexual experience a girl has by the outfit that she is wearing on any given night. This is obviously not true at all.
Judging Women?
Guys that call girls “sluts” are judging them and tend to judge all other women too.
Interestingly enough, guys that judge women, have a lot of trouble Getting Laid because of the very thing they keep reinforcing- if you are a woman, having an above average amount of sex outside of a committed relationship is wrong and bad.
If a girl feels like you are going to judge her for sleeping with you- she probably won’t sleep with you.
This is especially true if you are “boyfriend material”.
Girls purposely without sex from “boyfriend material” guys and require at least some emotional connection from a “boyfriend relationship” candidate before they give their pussy. This ensures the guy has an emotional connection and won’t judge the girl and bail on her. It also gives the woman some power in the relationship that she built while withholding her pussy.
Girls don’t usually withhold sex from “players” because they know these guys usually don’t have a ridiculous double-standard for sex.
Girls don’t like to be called “sluts,” for most of them it’s potential social suicide and is damaging to their self esteem and reputation. Fear of being label as ‘a slut’ why girls don’t have sex more often. It’s why ALL OF US don’t Get Laid more. The guys that judge women and call them “sluts” is the same reason why they can’t Get Laid. Isn’t that ironic?
Even dating back to when I didn’t Get Laid much, I never really judged women and especially not on their sex lives. I thankfully didn’t have to get over this. I very much disagree that the measuring stick of a women should be based upon how partners she’s had or hasn’t had. A lot of guys disagree. I don’t know if this is societal conditioning or a conclusion that they reached on their own. I assume it’s the former.
I Don’t Want Sluts!
A lot judgmental guys insist they “don’t want sluts”.
The main reason for this, in my opinion, is because they can’t get them in the first place.
It’s a convenient excuse to protect them from potential rejection.
Experienced girls (sluts) aren’t necessarily easier to get to for all guys. In fact, experienced girls (sluts) are usually harder to get for guys that don’t Get Laid much. These girls generally don’t sleep with nice “boyfriend material only” or loser guys. This is because- like all girls, these guys simply don’t really turn them on. These girls generally just sleep with players because they will have a good time without being judged. Nice guys generally are destined to end up in relationships prudish, inexperienced girls that require commitment. Nice guys call this “classy,” but in reality, they probably wish their sex life and relationship wasn’t so vanilla.
Sexually Available ≠ Slut
We screen for sexually availability.
On any given day. a certain percentage of girls are sexually available and a certain percentage are not.
Keep in mind that “single” and sexually available are NOT the same thing. A girl might be single but not sexually available (on her period, got fucked by a huge cock the night before, doesn’t sleep with guys without a relationship, etc.). The flip-side is that some girls in relationships are sexually available.
On any given day, experienced girls, not as experienced girls and virgins will be sexually available. You just need to find out if they are and handle the logistics. A girl’s sexually availability is no reflection of the amount of partners she’s had prior.
To assume that EVERY single girl that is willing is have sex if they meet someone is a “slut” is completely absurd.
Most of you guys are so far from that ridiculous perception that I don’t even need to expand further on this subtopic.
You Guys Know All This Stuff AnywayImage may be NSFW. Clik here to view.
Most of the guys that are part of the new Good Looking Loser community have a fairly good understanding that our aggressive stuff can get ALL types of sexually available women.
The keyword is- sexually available.
Aggressive techniques are not meant to get sexually unavailable girls.
No techniques will get sexually unavailable girls.
In fact, these mindsets and techniques are MEANT TO creep them out. Most of you guys don’t get caught in ‘black or white’ statements. Black and white statements featuring words like- only, never, always, generally never apply to anything in life.
There’s generally an exception to the rule.
Such is the case here. Aggressive techniques get all sorts of chicks, not ONLY “sluts”.
You never know what the girl is like until you screen her. Even still, you’ll just find out if she’s sexually available. It’s not until AFTER you have sex that the barriers and bullshit drops and you really can get to know a chick. Then even still, to really get to know her- you have to bang her for several months.
With experience, you’ll develop some instincts to find the girls that are DTF better. But again, if a girl if DTF on that particular day or night, it’s absolutely no reflection of her sexual history. Until you develop these instincts and even thereafter, you shouldn’t assume ANYTHING about a girl you haven’t spoken to. Not only might it not be accurate, it’s simply unproductive. That’s why we screen chicks in the first place- to find out if they are sexually available and cool.
Have you seen me talking about how college girls nearly all want to try a big cock before they graduate?
Wouldn’t it be creepy if girls knew that you viewed this website?
(fact is, a lot of girls think this site is awesome haha)
Have you seen Scotty? He’s a fucking creep.
We’re creeps but we Get Laid more than every nice guy in a 10-mile radius combined. (that’s just a stupid guess)
We a lot of have lots of hot girls that are friends that will defend our actions and ideas to the death too.
I’m a creep and I’m teaching you how to be a creep to filter out sexually unavailable girls and girls that have weird issues with sex.
Aggressive Game Only For Cold Approach?
This discussion was partly inspired by an email I got from a guy that has made a ton of progress in the past few months. He had trouble making normal conversation with random people (guys and girls) and now he’s on his way to talking to any chick(s) he wants. He knows it too. He’s just seeing now- as he being more aggressive that he’ll be called a “creep” every so often. Nice guys and guys that don’t Get Laid aren’t never called “creeps,” so take it as a compliment.
This aggressive “screening game” is meant for cold approach. But it’s not meant for cold approach just because there’s potential to “creep” girls out. It’s meant for cold approach because cold approach is the most efficient and productive way to meet women. If the Internet or social circle was more efficient and productive, I’d make a program for that. In the process, however, you’ll creep the sexually unavailable or emotional undesirable girls out. That’s what we want.
You can still be aggressive in social circle and it will work. Understand, accept and embrace that you can be called a “creep” and potentially develop a rep among that peer group. It’s not life or death though. I suggest mainly using aggressive screening for cold approach and/or when you are able to isolate (“hey its too cold here, lets walk over here…”) social circle girls.
You probably heard the phase “getting girls is a numbers game,” it most certainly is.
If you hear some “guru” say otherwise, he is a complete fraud. Report him to the proper authorities. Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.
It is a numbers game, after all- that’s why someone of us call it a “game.”
If you’ve followed GoodLookingLoser.com since January 2012, you’ll know that “getting girls is a numbers game,” is one of the very first things I talk about.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.Here are some related discussions-
While most guys know “getting girls is a numbers game,” their initial behavior and constant outcome dependency would say otherwise.
It’s not until they have gotten significant results until they have internalized the belief that “getting girls is a numbers game.” That’s how it was for me and I wasn’t exactly helped because I studied a lot PUA bullshit that promised “every girl, every time,” and other trash that made me blame myself for when interactions didn’t go just as I had planned.
I hope to bridge this gap and help you guys understand that this REALLY IS a numbers game, regardless of how good you are.
You’ll internalize the numbers game through real time experience, but let me see if I can make it easier for you.
Sexually Available vs. Sexually Unavailable Girls
The first thing I’d like you to understand is- NOT EVERY GIRL IS SEXUALLY AVAILABLE.
For some reason, even the “best” gurus don’t touch on this concept of sexually availability too much. The very worst “gurus” think that even single girl is able to fuck, every second of the day and if you don’t “get her” it’s something you did incorrectly. They insist there’s a certain “boyfriend destroyer” line that will make ever girl’s pussy dip with warm, sweet vaginal fluid because you said your line. It’s obviously not true.
In short, on any given day there’s a certain amount of girls that are sexually available (to be picked up) and a certain amount of that ARE NOT. Regardless of what you or I do, we cannot get the girls that ARE NOT available. There’s an infinite amount of potential reasons that a girl maybe be sexually unavailable for you or I.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.Here are some reasons-
She has a boyfriend.
She has a husband.
She has a lesbian lover.
She got drunk last night and she’s hungover, not looking to talk to new people.
She is super emotional today.
She already has a fuckbuddy.
She already has 10 fuckbuddies.
She doesn’t EVER have fuckbuddies.
She is a super conservative girl that doesn’t have sex without being married for 4 years.
She already got fucked that day by a thick cock.
She had a bad experience from the last guy that picked her up.
Her friends are there and they will judge her.
She has to wake up early in the morning. (logistics)
She has to go home early that night.
She is on her period.
She thinks she is on her period.
She thinks she is pregnant.
She doesn’t have casual sex.
She is a drug addict.
She didn’t take her anti-depression medicine (welcome to Los Angeles).
She is just out for attention.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.You look like her ex-boyfriend that she hates.
She doesn’t think it’s appropriate to meet people at _____.
She doesn’t like players, she only likes nice guys and fucks them after 10 dates.
She doesn’t think she looks good.
She’s just a fucking weirdo at all times.
She heard a story from a friend that makes her hate guys for a week or two.
She’s obsessed with some other guy.
She’s obsessed with her ex-boyfriend.
She wants a boyfriend.
She doesn’t know what the fuck she wants.
She had a bad day.
She’s scared of guys at bars.
She’s scared of guys at clubs.
She’s scared of guys that talk to her during the day.
She doesn’t know how to show guys that she’s DTF.
Okay, some of those are far-fetched, some of those are COMPLETELY realistic and common.
No where in there did I say “you are too ugly” “you are too much of a fucking loser,” I didn’t say that, right?
The point is-
NONE of them are your fault.
NONE of them can you control.
I’ll repeat that-
NONE of them are your fault.
NONE of them can you control.
I also want you to keep in mind that “single” DOES NOT mean sexually available, just as “I have a boyfriend” DOES NOT mean sexually unavailable. A girl could be single but have to wake up at 5am the next morning. She isn’t home with anyone.
A further point is- there is NO reason to analyze why ONE certain girl didn’t talk to you/give you her number/fuck you, it could be any of those reasons. Again, none of those reasons were “you are too ugly,” or “you are too uncool.”
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.Chances Are- She already Fucked a Guy Uglier Than You
It’s true. The average girl, aged 18-25, who is sexually available at times (we aren’t talking about the girls who NEVER sleep with anyone) has probably had at least a handful of partners. Usually more. At least one of those partners was probably UGLIER than you. Not every girl is fucking some actor or model. The hottest girls generally fuck the guys that are slightly above average to above average looking.
You probably aren’t being rejected on your looks, most of the time.
Does that make you feel better?
This is something I had to learn, even though most girls consider me “good looking,” I was scared to death of rejection because I was certain that it was because of my looks being inadequate. When I’d “get rejected” by a girl who wasn’t available in the first place, I wanted to go home and hide in my closet and cry like the little bitch that I was. That’s a true story, between you and I.
Exception: A Small Percentage of Guys ARE Getting Rejected For Their Looks
There’s a small percentage of guys that are really ugly, in horrible shape and generally just present themselves as low class, socially-retarded dog shit. This small percentage of guys will be getting rejected for their looks and style, or lack thereof. They will be getting rejected a lot.
In my opinion, NOBODY, outside of some sort of unfortunate accident, has to fall into that category. There are some guys that are genetically better looking and more attractive than others, but no guy has to fall into this “really ugly, in horrible shape and generally just present themselves as low class, socially-retarded dog shit,” category where they are getting rejected for their looks, most if not all of the time.
If you fall into this category, pull yourself out. You aren’t going to get laid much otherwise.
Girls have a “looks threshold,” so long as you aren’t looking like shit, you probably don’t fall out of that theshold for the average girl.
The average guy is probably not getting rejected for his looks. Not most of the time. And Certainly NOT by the average girl.
Most of the time, he’s getting “rejected” by a girl that wasn’t available in the first place.
Let me repeat that-
Most of the time, you are getting “rejected” by girls that ARE NOT AVAILABLE IN THE FIRST PLACE (if you are aggressively approaching them and communicating that you want sex).
Usually over half the girls you approach won’t be sexually available that day/night/week. The last thing you need to do is blame yourself.
You should MAXIMIZE your looks, your style and your social freedom (via experience) and you will be landing, at least phone numbers, from the majority of sexually available girls.
This is NOT a reframe. This how it is. I have friends that are better looking than I am and are in magazines and some movies. They are actors and model in Los Angeles. They get “rejected” by girls. And They aren’t getting rejected for their looks. The girl is simply NOT available.
That should give you some insight on what this “numbers game” truly is.
I did not understand this when I started and even after I took some trainings from certain PU companies. They didn’t understand it either.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.What the Numbers Game Means to Me
After 4-5 years, I have a deeper understanding of this “game,” than I had years ago. (this is because of concept encounters)
My understanding is probably too deep to fully explain with text, maybe I’ll try to do so in a video.
In short, I know if I want to get laid, at this point, all I have to do is walk up to 100 girls, give them a compliment and ask for their number. If I wanted to basically guarantee my chances, I could additionally message 100 girls the exact same message on a dating site and ask for their number after we talked for a couple minutes. I’ll have more than a few options. If somehow I don’t, I will just do it again. I’ll get laid in a few days. That the way it works every time.
Regardless of what level you are at, even if you are a beginner (without extreme social anxiety) I believe you can walk up to 100 girls, about 30-40 will be sexually available and ask all of them for their numbers. You’ll have a date, at the very least within a week. You might even get laid if you run into a horny girl who finds you attractive.
By understanding and seeing the big picture, I never get too caught up in what happens along the way. That gives me tremendous peace.
At times, I have straight up looked at women as numbers and nothing more.
Frankly that’s is what they are until I meet them and I see that they are cool enough to hang out with me. That’s being detached. That’s screening. I suggest you try to internalize that mindset. It took me a while though.
A lot of guys will have a problem with that and say- “isn’t that de-humanizing the girls?” “doesn’t that ruin your interactions and you can’t show your personality and passion?” “won’t she see that you are viewing her as a number and not a human being that has feelings, dreams and family members?” “isn’t that what the Nazis and Soviets did to people? de-humanizing them?” (I’ve been asked this stuff before, really.)
My answer to that is- Stop taking it so seriously. We are discussing “talking to women,” nothing more. Stop being so introspective, “why why why how how how what if what if what if” and just start talking to some chicks. If it helps you to view them strictly as numbers, do so. If it helps you to view them as “incredible miracles of sciences with a soul and a brain full of unique passion and ambitions – no one woman is ever the same,” then do that.
GoodLookingLoser.com Is a Numbers Game
I’m still very new to building an interactive website, but I’m finding that everything that happens on GoodLookingLoser.com is a numbers game.
Everyday, a certain amount of people will visit GoodLookingLoser.com.
A certain percentage will like me.
A certain percentage will hate me.
A certain percentage of people will use this information to enhance their life.
A certain percentage will do absolutely nothing with it.
The only people I try to target to help are those that will use this information to enhance their life. All my stuff is directed at those people, the rest of the people I absolutely want to scare off so I don’t waste time with them in the forum. Does that sound familiar?
If you are one of the younger guys who visit GoodLookingLoser.com, I encourage you to begin viewing the world as a successful businessman. Life is a numbers game. Anyone who is wealthy from their own means, understands how this stuff works.
The numbers game is particularly well illustrated in sales.
Here’s an example with numbers-
(I was hesitant to give this example, since some people HATE hearing that other people make money, but I’m going to give it anyway since I’m not exactly hiding myself [I'm showing my dick on another page] and it fits the numbers game perfectly)
As of July 4th, about 400 new people a day come to GoodLookingLoser.com [seemingly] looking to see if the Bathmate is any good. I usually sell 4 Bathmate pumps a day to new visitors. That means 1 in 100 people are buying it. While that might not seem like a lot, it’s pretty good for the nature of this device in the male enhancement industry that is loaded with bullshit.
I promote it because it legitimately helps people and positively reflects on me since it’s such a good product.
Let’s take a look a closer look at what those 100 new people do.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.Out of 100 NEW PEOPLE who come to GoodLookingLoser.com looking for a “Bathmate Review,” on any given day, according to my Google analytics report- * These are estimates.
40% of them will say for about 4 minutes, not buy it, but come back later that day or tomorrow. They might buy it then, they usually won’t though (this could be for any number of reasons- they think I’m lying, they think talking about ‘big cock’ sex is weird, they hate me, they hate you, they think it doesn’t work, the price is too high, they buy something else, they weren’t serious in the first place and just saw an advertisement on it, etc. etc. etc.) Nothing I can control.
30% of them will click away either with 2 second or 1 minute for any one of the reasons I listed above. They never return.
20% of them will take at least 20 minutes and revisit later, reading all the information about the Bathmate but not end up getting it.
9% of them will take at least 20 minutes and revisit later, reading all the information about the Bathmate and get it another day.
1% of them will take at least 20 minutes and revisit later, reading all the information about the Bathmate and get the Bathmate today.
Although these are estimates, all of these percentages stay very, very consistent. It’s like they never change. It’s been this way since I started started promoting the Bathmate back in January 2012. The only thing that changes is the amount of people that have been visiting the website.
While I could try to make the Bathmate section of GoodLookingLoser.com “better” to slightly increase +1-2% how many people buy it, I’d be better off just trying to have more people find GoodLookingLoser.com. If 1 out of every 100 people buy the Bathmate on the same day and 400 people come looking to possibly purchase the Bathmate on a daily basis (4 sales)… I’d double sales if I could get 800 people to visit (8 sales).
The more people see the Bathmate page, the more people buy it.
The more chicks your talk to, the more chicks you will bang.
Do you see the parallel?
It’s not an exact parallel. But after over a half-decade of banging random hot women, and admittedly, my lesser experience at selling a penis pump, it’s pretty close.
It’s ‘conversions’ as they say in sales.
Once most guys beat the majority of their approach anxiety they will bang about 1 or 2 girls for every 100 they approach.
If their goal is to bang 10 girls in a year, approaching 450 girls in total (1 or 2/day) would do this. Once you gain more experience, MAX out your looks and style, you might expect to bang 3 or 4 girls in every 100. The guys at the highest levels might have periods where they bang 5 to 7 attractive girls.
But still, the outcome of the majority of your approaches is completely out of your control. Most of the girls won’t be available for SEX. Not even the single ones, a lot of them are strictly trying to get boyfriends and be courted.
The majority of the time- the key to getting laid more is simply to hit on more girls and not “improve” your game. A guy with average “game” can get laid more than a guy with good “game,” simply by talking to more women. The percentages can change based on the quality of girl you approach, but it still remains a numbers game.
That might seem like a lot of “work” to bang 1 or 2 girls, but remember our method- Screening, Get Laid or Get Lost. Short interactions, physical advances, you won’t waste your time. It’s a lot work if you are playing “text wizard monkey” with a girl for 4 weeks to try and get a non-sexual date.
It’s a numbers game. Some chicks are available, most chicks aren’t.
If girls “Get Lost” or “reject you,” it’s usually not your fault unless you haven’t made the effort to look at least slightly above average.
MAX out your looks, style and social freedom (via experience) and you’ll be able to get the majority of girls that ARE AVAILABLE.*
* If you are shorter than 5-11, get shoes or shoe inserts to make yourself taller.
This is an issue that I’ve needed to give some perspective on for a awhile. I think it will help certain guys make sense of some things. I’ll try to cover it as concisely as possible, all you need is a basic explanation to understand it and tweak your approach, if need-be.
Everyone has a pretty good idea of “Screening Game: What is Screening?” where you ‘screen’ girls with physical advances to see if they are sexually available.
Some guys get it quickly, but some guys- in an effort to embrace and develop social courage, may misunderstand the dynamic of the situation.
Obviously, Scotty and I push aggressive (sometimes extreme) behavior at all levels. About 10 of the main discussions on GLL remind you ‘it’s better to be too aggressive than too passive’. We talk about quick, unapologetic physical screening from the start. The coming perspective doesn’t change that, it should give it context however.
Okay.
What I’m seeing from some guys is- full on, somewhat unnecessary escalation relative to their logistics.
Let me explain.
When you are hitting on girls you should have a game plan.
Without getting into every scenario or specifics, there’s 2 main game plans to have-
Take her number.
Try to take her to a private place. Bang her.
A lot of guys here are doing daytime approaches, they don’t necessarily have a planned spot to take women (which is fine). Over half the time when I was talking to girls as a regular part of my day, I didn’t have a spot around the corner to take them.
In that case, the game plan should be to screen, make small talk and take their number and leave. A little [physical escalation/sexual innuendo] goes a long way during the day. Touch the chick a few times and maybe throw some flirting in there.
What you don’t have to do is keep touching her over-and-over, if you DON’T have a place to take her.
That’s escalation, you don’t really need to do that.
In fact, if you don’t have a planned spot to take her or a game plan to fuck her, it’s kinda weird to keep touching the girl over-and-over-and-over. It’s certainly not a “bad” thing, I’ve done that more times than I can remember, it helped me develop social courage and kill my nice guy issues. It just usually make more sense to have a specific game plan, rather than just “take it as far as possible” (if you DON’T have a place to take her).
Without getting too mPUALoser on you, I want to separate screening from escalation. They are related, but not quite the same thing. Escalation is something you should be doing if you game plan involves banging the girl within the hour. If you need specifics on escalation- Get Laid: Physical Escalation.
Screening is just a few physical advances to determine if she’s sexually available.
Escalation is several physical advances that will determine if she’s sexually available and DTF within the hour. (it will also turn her on)
Here’s some examples to separate the two
Touch her hand= screening, escalation
Touch her elbow= screening, escalation
Touch her wrist= screening, escalation
Touch her arm= screening, escalation
Hold her hand= screening, escalation
Brush her hair= screening, escalation
Slap her ass= escalation (day) – screening, escalation (night)
Put your hand on her waistline = escalation (day) – screening, escalation (night)
Play with her hair= escalation
Kiss her = escalation
Grab her ass= escalation
Grab her breasts = escalation
Rip off her pants = escalation
Rip off your pants = escalation
Put your dick in her mouth = beyond escalation
The basic point is-
In general, when you are out during the day, unless you have a place to take her that’s 10 minutes or less away from you- your game plan should be screening, taking her number.
At night, you can usually sneak off somewhere, even if you don’t have a place 10 minutes or less from you- your game plan should be screening, escalation.
My examples
Daytime- When I lived on the beach in Santa Monica, my place was like 5 minutes away from the main part of the beach where all the chicks were hanging out and walking around. It was perfect. In that case, my game plan was to bring the girl back to my place. I would escalate on them.
Daytime- When I lived in the Hills in Los Angeles, which is at least 20+ minutes away from where I was at all times, my game plan was to screen chicks and take their number. There was no point in escalating on them because it wasn’t going anywhere at that point in time.
Nighttime- When I lived just north of Sunset Blvd. and was near one super popular bar, my game plan involved quick escalation and getting the girl out of the bar ASAP.
Nighttime- If I was out with friends and ABSOLUTELY had NO PLACE to take sexually available chicks (not often), my game plan involved screening and taking their number.
I want to say that I’m super proud of a lot of guys here. They are challenging themselves and BRINGING IT! Touching girls when they want, how they want. DON’T LOSE THAT!!!! I wanted to offer context to “how much you need to do” when you go out, especially during the day.
If you don’t have a place to take a girl, take their number. There’s no point in touching a girl that likes you over-and-over-and-over if you can’t get laid within the hour.
If you have nearby logistics, ESCALATE, early and often.
Main Points (GLL v3.1)
Screening and escalation are related, but not quite the same.
Have a game plan. Execute.
You only need to fully escalate if you are trying to get laid within the hour.
Screening will determine if a girl is sexually available.
Escalation will determine if a girl is sexually available and DTF.
Aight… Wednesday, Erik and I went out to do some videos today.
This was my only day available this week since we’re in the process of moving the forum to a hot platform and other administrative stuff on my agenda.
Annoying, funny day- in that order.
The camera was giving us some issues from the start, it seemed to kinda do that in that later parts of “GoodLookingLoser In-Field Video 2,” but we didn’t realize it. We weren’t getting audio on most of the videos and it was cutting out on some of the others. 40 minutes ago, we did a hard format and factory restore to the camera and it seemed to have fixed that issue, so next round should go smoothly. I’ll be doing more on Saturday afternoon.
This video seemed to film pretty well. There’s full video and full audio (minus 8 seconds).
The only issue was that the cashier (and supervisor, not pictured) asked us to stop filming in their store.
I agreed, stood around the front of the store, and just told Erik to hide the camera as best he could. If they saw it- Erik would just leave and walk away before they called security or something. Haha- The video is going just fine until the guy notices the camera again and tells Erik to stop filming. Normally, we’d keep going, but even though the guy said it nicely– they were getting pissed at us. (legal advice has instructed me to just WALK AWAY).
So anyway, the during remaining part of the interaction, I’m just sitting there talking to her. I take her number and leave. That’s the gameplan on most of these more basic day videos.
The front part of this video is the only thing that really matters.
I engage her from a distance before we even speak, tell her to get off the phone, and grab her hand and walk into the place in about a minute. Cool girl actually.
I’m hoping the camera is fixed, we’ll do more on Saturday. Apologize for the delay… they’re cummin…
While it’ll be nice to get up some “wow” videos once we catch a few that are good quality, I have no problem showing you some incomplete footage if it’s beneficial (and audible). REAL is what we do, the wow factor may come from time-to-time, but it’s def. not the focus in these first few.
It’s not actually super easy to film and get solid audio on this stuff if you aren’t staging or faking it, so we’ll just do our best. It’ll get better once we get the timing, camera angles (for audio), etc. I think Erik (guy filming it) has done a decent job so far, the girls never see/look at the camera. We’ve only shot like 6 videos, 3 of which are now posted.
remember: “opener” is the eye-contact and wink, not me telling her to get off her phone. whether she was in the middle of a conversation or finishing it up, I have no idea.
I suggest you listen to the beginning commentary on the dynamic of the approach.
Interaction Begins at 4:40 (turn up the volume, after the commentary)
Play-By-Play
04:42 – I make eye contact and smile at girl
04:47 – I make eye contact and wink at girl
04:52 – I just say “hey hey get off your phone real quick….. don’t worry about it…. call her back… that’s alright… can’t talk.. you gotta go…” (something close to that)
05:08 – The usual intro “UMMMMMM… I know this is random but I thought you were attractive, so I wanted to come say hi”
05:11 – Girl says “hi, how are you” still probably thinking about how random/direct this is
05:18 – Usual follow up “well aren’t you going to say I’m attractive too?”
05:22 – She doesn’t want to say it because I’m a douchebag, but she’s interested in me
05:24 – Another usual folow “so what are you up to, shopping for shoes or something”
05:34 – She says she’s a flip-flop girl (note: I know right by this statement that she isn’t a Hollywood girl, she’s more real and down-to-earth)
05:37 – I say “Yo you want to grab coffee real quick?” she agrees and I grab her hand and walk in the place (this was the plan from the start, even though I usually don’t do these insta-dates)
05:41 Audio goes quiet, I say “tell me what you do” (i think) she says she’s a new 6th grade teacher
05:50 She asks where I’m from
*good audio*
06:20 She’s guesses I’m from Sacramento CA, which is basically the opposite of Los Angeles, relative to California cities. This is a bad guess from a smaller town girl.
06:25 Audio goes quiet for a few seconds, you don’t miss anything
06:31 I tell her “you aren’t so tough” and stare at her and nudge her, I sense that she’s pretending she’s tough cause she’s pretty confident
06:33 She says “I am too!!!” (explaining that she is tough).. its all just flirting btw.
06:36 I tell her that “she’s not tough in real life and I’m not even kidding”
06:41 I tell her that “some guys might think you’re tough,” she says “the majority”
06:58 When I step away the guy behind the camera see’s Erik with the camera and tells us “no filming” for the 3rd time haha… Erik leaves
There’s nothing that significant in the next 7-8 minutes. I grab her hand and sit down in the corner. Talk to her about Los Angeles, sugar-free coffee syrups, she asks me about this weekend, I excuse myself and take her number, and give her a hug.
The more aggressive parts, relative to daytime, are getting her off the phone and taking her in the coffee shop in about 60 seconds. The rest is the same basic stuff that works fine during the day that most guys can do once they take care of the majority of their AA.
hope you enjoyed, this girl was naturally pretty cute
After you watch I highly encourage you take a look at the following discussions-
You can pretty much get your hands on any product or information you want if you dig deep enough.
You can apply to college, you can find a job, you can look at your bank account, you can count calories in your diet, you can learn just about anything, you can find a girlfriend, you can buy groceries, you can go to church, you can pirate music, movies and other stuff that the you were never supposed see without paying. You can arouse yourself and cum all over your keyword. You can hire a hitman to murder people you don’t like while you are busy looking at pictures on Facebook or listening to Lady Gaga.
Pretty fly.
With the enormous, immeasurable access to products and information, it can be a colossal waste of time.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.One of the problems with the Internet, especially on subjects that are “subjective” and up to interpenetration- anyone can be an expert, regardless of the amount of experience they have or don’t have. And It’s hard to check on whos for real and who is not.
This is true of nearly every single online community where there’s no criteria or screening process to be an authority. The “how to” communities are notorious bad.
Take the “PUA Forums” (and the Seduction Community at-large), it’s the worst of the worst. Guys with no experience are giving advice to guys with no experience about something they’ve never done and never will do. Even the authorities don’t get pussy.
(just so you know- guys that actually fuck 100s of hot girls usually aren’t on “PUA” or dating forums giving advice to “help” people)
This isn’t unique to just specific communities, it’s widespread-
Even Youtube videos have “experts” chiming in about something they’ve never done, and even if they have- they still probably aren’t qualified to speak.
A video of Tiger Woods (arguably the best golfer ever) had people “giving him advice” on how to hit the ball harder.
A video of Michael Jordan (arguably the best basketball player ever) had people saying how he needed to bend his knees more when dunking a basketball.
A music video from the Red Hot Chili Peppers had people saying that the bass guitar was too loud and their music was “no good” anymore.
A video of how Bill Gates built Microsoft had people discussing “how they would build” a billion dollar business.
A video of Bruce Willis had people saying how Bruce Willis could be a better actor.
Generally speaking- guys that are top 1% experienced authorities on basketball, golf, playing music that has worldwide appeal, building a billion dollar business and appearing in major Hollywood action movies aren’t analyzing and posting comments on Youtube videos or “helping” on public forums.
There’s 2 things that nearly all these “Internet experts” have in common-
Most have virtually no experience.
Most aren’t interested in actually improving their life. It is strictly entertainment to them. Some know this, some don’t.
* Most are only interested in “being right” and getting validation from other inexperienced people on the Internet.
A pretty worthless existence.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.Be aware of this.
Don’t take advice from people that you do not KNOW (are-absolutely-positively-fucking-sure) that have experience with what they are talking about, even if it “sounds” right.
Try to develop a filter and tune out the baseless information.
I’m not completely sure how you develop a filter, just being aware and not exposing yourself to “experts” without experience might be a good start.
You might need to [re]consider who you listen to for advice on certain subjects, even family members who have good intentions.
If I was trying to lose weight or build a better body- I wouldn’t take advice from someone without seeing a picture of them first, regardless of what “certification” they had or how many Pubmed studies they cited.
If I was trying to learn how to make money in the stock market- I wouldn’t take advice from somebody without knowing exactly how successful he is been at it. I don’t care if he has a degree in economics or is a college professor who wrote his own textbook.
If I was trying to get laid- I wouldn’t take advice from someone until I saw reasonable evidence that he actually fucks girls, is cool, and does what he talks about. I don’t care how many posts he has on forum or how well I “relate” to him at the present moment in time.
What About Good Looking Loser?
If you aren’t absolutely sure that we get pussy, go to the gym, pull on our dicks, and actually live the stuff we talk about.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.
Leave immediately, RUN DO NOT WALK, save yourself.
Like I said- it’s absolutely cancerous to learn from someone that has no experience.
It is not only a waste of time, it’s counterproductive because you’ll have to unlearn all the shit later.
Even if our stuff on GoodLookingLoser.com is “right,” I still don’t suggest you follow the advice if you don’t think we’ve done it.
You shouldn’t learn from anyone that you aren’t as close to 100% certain that they are coming from experience. That includes us. I’m being absolutely serious.
There’s a lot of other authorities out there that will tell you they “know” about how to date women, what they “know” about getting in shape, what they “know” about drugs, and give you some penis pills that they “heard” will work.
There’s lots of options.
Lets End on a Positive NoteImage may be NSFW. Clik here to view.
I can reassure you that any official advice that you get here [from me] comes from experience.
I’ll usually tell you how much experience too, sometimes I can use numbers, dates, and specifics.
If I don’t have experience with a particular topic, I’ll let you know, and offer my opinion if you still want it.
I get asked a lot of questions, but I don’t know everything and I’ll never claim to.
Believe it or not, I don’t know everything about getting laid, getting ripped or getting a bigger dick- what I can claim is that I have a lot of solid experience with all three.
The last person I want to be is Mr. Internet Expert.
And That’s the last person I want to make you.
We all know a “Mr. Know-It-All” that has jackshit for a resumé.
He knows how to get girls, dress well without trying, eat correctly, get into graduate school, run a business, give public speeches, he can sing if he wanted to and play professional sports, he can decrease unemployment if only he had political power, win major World Wars, he can even cure chronic diseases with household items such as Apple Cider Vinegar, he can tell you how healthful the water in your city is and how people in other countries think and even explain their behavior to them… while all the while- maximizing his efficiency and production.
He’s particularly good at the stuff he has the least experience with.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.He’ll even tell you without you asking.
He’ll even debate you, since he’s good at that too.
Don’t be that guy.
If you found GoodLookingLoser.com, in it’s first 8 months of existence, you are pretty resourceful. That is a huge asset.
So long as you are pulling a reasonable amount information from the right sources (and applying it daily) and filtering out the crap- you’ll be so far ahead of the average guy in just a matter of years.
unfortunately have to post this disclaimer:
You are welcome to share this video. However- Any reproduction of this material by any means, in whole or in part, is STRICTLY prohibited without express written permission of GoodLookingLoser.com and 5952 Digital Productions LLC.
Forgive the disclaimer. It won’t apply to 99.9999% of people here, GoodLookingLoser.com is getting attention from others with financial incentive in the mainstream of several niches. I know what goes on with stealing videos, editing them and claiming ownership for profit or seeking to defame or slander the creator. We just dealt with a guy that copied the Bathmate page word-for-word and posted my pictures as himself. He’s in trouble.
Okay enough of that shit, I don’t like it either-
Talked to 5 girls at a “coffee shop” in Studio City, about 10-15 minutes (by car) from my place.
This video is girl #4.
I’m thrilled I got these videos on camera. Thrilled.
It’s not easy to do these, if you aren’t faking them.
I’d venture to say nearly ALL of the videos on the Internet that have PERFECT video, audio, game, etc. are faked or staged. I’d bet my right foot on it.
Further, I’m thrilled because we have a little new tool I call the “eyeball”that actually made the “camera” undetectable. In fact, there’s no camera at all. There’s just a cell phone and you look like you are texting and film EVERYTHING in front of you. The audio isn’t too bad either. There’s no ‘cell phone camera’, there’s just a cell phone… get it? Pretty sick. It’s not yet a widely available cell phone accessory (Cricket phones only?) I don’t think. If I can get more information about it, I’ll let you know. It might not even be sold in stores at the moment, the kid that gave it to Erik knows how to build information systems and security devices.
Given the logistics, my game plan was to literally take a girl home from this place. This relies on A LOT of luck. The logistics, half out of my control, need to line up. On this girl they didn’t, she had to be at work in less than 30minutes. Didn’t stop me from taking her somewhere though.
note: Taking a girl home from a coffee shop in Los Angeles (or anywhere) is pretty rare. Chances are, they drove there. They might be sexually available (in which case you grab their number) but DTF is another story. Admittedly, the majority of my SAME DAY (without phone number) lays came when I lived at the beach. You might have heard me talk about it before- I could step outside and literally see 300+ girls in an hour. If they are chilling/walking around near the beach/amusement park area- they usually have a few hours free, without a loaded scheduled. If they are by themselves, they usually don’t have social commitments, although some of them are waiting on their friends to find parking. Guys that are familiar with Santa Monica Beach know exactly what I’m talking about.
Pre-Video Discussion for Aggressive Video #1
Made this video after being awake for 25hours straight, kinda worn out-
Video for Aggressive Video #1
interaction begins at 0:00
Keep in mind, I’m mainly subtlety aggressive during the day. Moving fast is aggressive, I get her alone behind the place in about 10 minutes.
Unfortunately, anything that may be considered ‘sexual harassment’ (is legally treated as such) and should be covered by a small sign, at the advice of my lawyer. I don’t think it takes much away from the video, thanks for your understanding.
… video continues for about another 8 or 10 minutes, behind the place.
unfortunately have to post this disclaimer:
You are welcome to share this video. However- Any reproduction of this material by any means, in whole or in part, is STRICTLY prohibited without express written permission of GoodLookingLoser.com and 5952 Digital Productions LLC.
Forgive the disclaimer. It won’t apply to 99.9999% of people here, GoodLookingLoser.com is getting attention from others with financial incentive in the mainstream of several niches. I know what goes on with stealing videos, editing them and claiming ownership for profit or seeking to defame or slander the creator. We just dealt with a guy that copied the Bathmate page word-for-word and posted my pictures as himself. He’s in trouble.
Okay, sorry, lets talk about cooler stuff-
This was the 5th girl out of 5 I talked to on Wednesday.
The gameplan wasn’t a phone number.
Lets just say- it went well. The logistics lined up and I handled the rest.
Interaction begins at 5:00, I suggest to listen to the pre-video discussion though. View in the highest resolution to see captions.
Quick is the name of the game, immediately after I kissed her– I had her make plans to leave.
Note: picture to the right is Julia Roberts. Has nothing to do with the video.
From Saturday, October 13th.
This seems to be everyone’s favorite. Thanks Youtube guys.
Girl is really hot, fun and basically the ‘type’ that I’m screening for.
The gameplan was to take her home, this type of thing isn’t common to do in a grocery store. The logistics alone (aka she’s in the PROCESS of shopping and probably has a car) are against us. I don’t usually go the fucking grocery store with this type of plan, but you never know…
I stuck to this gameplan because my friend’s place (actually my friend’s- friend), is 3-4 minutes away. This was the hottest girl I’ve seen in 2 weeks (and I get out a fair amount) so guess what– I’m gonna try and set something up.
And I do… she insists.
added: You know what? THIS is the type of approach I had no chance of even doing and the caliber girl that I could ONLY pull via my social circles before I started this shit in 2007. There was definitely a point that I thought I couldn’t ever do this, let alone film it. I’m happy with how these videos are going. I can chill and really give you all I have- not worrying about cameras, angles, audio (sorta) and other bullshit. This is some of the best stuff, like I said elsewhere- it would be disingenuous to tell you, “ohh.. this is only a taste of what I’m capable of! Buy my ebook/workshop/fake product for the real deal! Click here!” No. This is me at a high level. By the way, everything [information-related] is free and always will be.
The team effort with Erik and I (and this kid Carlos, this weekend) is going well. This is a team effort, we are all getting more comfortable and frankly wiser to doing these. I don’t “train” for these, we got the legal green light and we went out and shot them. Each video is 1gig+, the audio ain’t always solid.. so I do have to selective about which ones I upload. Perhaps I’ll put footage from the other into a longer video sometime. (continued below the video, disclaimer)
Video for Aggressive Video #3
Quick corrections-
I say “i can read you like a book” and not “its a joke” at 6:03
14:10 I say “its such a slap in the face” (to bring meat to vegan party) and not “im not a dick”
I’ve heard some nice feedback for the video. Thanks.
I’ll admit it- I’m into this girl, she’s into me. This is just foreplay. We got excited about having sex with each other from the second I gave her the grocery cart back. It’s hard to see, but there’s something in my eyes that shows I’m excited (she has the same). This is different than the other approaches, even when some the girls that really liked me. This type of REAL chemistry is rare, it’s something that “takes two” to create. These are the ones I live for.
Without going into detail, I’ve seen her a bunch since. She is a quality person and just follows my lead. So much of that because of how that approach went down. Nothing like that will ever happen to her again. She knows it.
Okay enough about me.
I’ve been thinking though. And I’m being serious- Does this type of video benefit me or you more?
Granted it’s a minority, I’ve seen some comments scattered around SedFast, SoSuave, Youtube, etc. where guys, for some reason, get upset that they don’t think they will ever be able to do this.
First off- who cares. You only need above-average looks, style and social freedom to tag a ton of top-shelf chicks.
Second off- it’s unnecessary. I took this type of ‘approach’ because the opportunity presented itself. Would I have done it if I wasn’t being filmed? Maybe, maybe not. I’ve done it before. It doesn’t matter though, I could have just done the regular, “hey you’re attractive, etc. I wanted to see what you were like.” and that would have worked too. That would have been less sexy to put on video. Again.
But still, I know where some of you guys are coming from.
Partly because we needed to understand the legal parameters, partly because we didn’t have a great audio/video setup, we did the basic videos first. I’m glad I did too, even though it left the more advanced guys thinking there was a lot to be desired. Unless you are taking girls home in the middle of the day, you don’t need to do all this.
Don’t get me wrong, this one is good. Really good. I don’t know there’s REAL (yeah… actually REAL PEOPLE INTERACTING) videos that have this kind of stuff or the one where I leave with the other sexy girl in 8 minutes. Maybe there are. I don’t know. I’ll get a lot of traffic to GoodLookingLoser.com because of these videos, but I just want to make sure we have our priorities straight-
GET LAID.
GoodLookingLoser.com is not supposed to be entertainment, it shouldn’t be. With the amount of cool shit we see on TV, we are desensitized, crave more entertainment and tend to lose focus of why we are trying to learn something in the first place. I know I do sometimes. Personally, I’d rather provide useful stuff than entertainment. I swear to God when I say that.
Entertainment doesn’t usually change lives or make anyone better.
If it motivates you, great. I’m happy. That’s not a bad thing.
But for the guys that are SERIOUS about getting RESULTS, please keep perspective- do what works and forget how entertaining I/you are in the process. Get Laid. Win.
I was supposed to head out on Saturday to get at least a few hours of hunting (on video) in before the Florida Gators – South Carolina Gamecocks football game. The weather was crappy and all of us were behind schedule. As of this video, I think I had been awake for about 26(?) hours. So we weren’t going to do it all at, but I decided to see what I could do in about 20-25 minutes since the area behind the house (not my house) has decent traffic. It’s a shopping plaza, Barnes and Noble, Sports Authority, places to eat, Sally’s Beauty Supply, Home Depot across the street, etc.. The logistics were pretty ideal (3-4minute walk back to the house), so the obvious gameplan is to try and bring a girl back.
So that’s what I did, on the very first ‘approach’.
It wasn’t an approach at all, I’m just camping outside the book store and seeing who comes through. We have found this is way easier for filming purposes.
Now this rarely happens on the first approach, not because I particularly need to get ‘warmed up’, but if you consider that less than half of the girls wandering aren’t sexually available (let alone DTF), the odds are against it.
This interaction is more typical than the one from the grocery store a week earlier.
The girl is quiet in this one, aside from laughing and letting me touch her, she never seemingly gets “warmed up” to the whole thing. At least not verbally. There’s a lot of reasons for that, and none of them have to do with me. She’s shy, she’s pretty but not a socially competitive Los Angeles bombshell. She was studying 10 minutes earlier. She’s probably more of a ‘relationship’ type girl, conscious of what her friends think of her behavior, but not prude enough to reject sex when she know it’ll be good and no one will find out.
As you’ll see- I just keep talking. In fact, I don’t shut up. I end up answering my own questions. All the while, I’m touching her. I don’t exactly try to read girls or look for clues, I just try to execute my gameplan. After I kiss her, she gets even more quiet, but the fact that she really never makes an effort to leave tells me all I need to know. From there, it’s simply a matter of handling the logistics (aka get in my car and drive 90seconds to Carlos’ house around the corner). Turns out, she lived a few buildings over from where we were- so that helped.
There’s several times in this interaction where I would have walked away 4-5years ago. In fact, it makes perfect sense to do so, she isn’t really giving me much at certain times. That’s where the physical stuff comes in, the simple fact that she’s letting me hold her hand and didn’t ‘get lost’ after I kissed her tells me all I gotta know.
Here are some notes that I posted in the forum-
What I’d like people to see is-
1) How to handle girls that are being shy/not-that-receptive/quiet/boring/in shock whatever.
2) Aside from what I did with the actual shopping cart in the previous video, i dont think I did that much differently… it was all the same shit with more verbal since i has to carry the conversation.
q: So why’d this girl come back to my friend’s (friend) place and the other girl invited me over for dinner?
a: i had a spot for her that was 3minutes away
q: So why was this girl quieter, less receptive than the super hot girl? what did i do wrong?
a: nothing, that is her personality
q: So howd you know that she liked you?
a: she stood there talking to me
q: So why did she agree to leave with me when i said “come meet the new dog” vs. “lets grab a drink” (granted it was like 2:15pm haha)?
a: who knows, maybe the anti-slut thing where ‘lets meet the new dog’ is different than getting a drink
with this girl, if I was waiting for “IOI”s, id be standing there for 4hours… maybe longer. she wanted no role other than participating in sex, thats fine, thats easier for me actually– these are the situations where you can move FAST
this type of thing is more common than the ‘explosive’ stuff in the previous video, even though I get more “points” from the average viewer for the other video, this is way more representative of a routine situation and how to (how I) do it.
I’m pretty fair and I generally don’t delete any website comments, not even the criticisms. If a comment is calling me a loser, saying that “I hope you die,” or verbally attacking other posters- I generally remove it. It serves no purpose whatsoever. This is only a very small minority of comments however.
Hmm… Another guy reading ‘dating/seduction’ websites who’s already fucked 100… oh wait- 120 girls.
But that’s besides the point.
I found it somewhat strange actually, I read it about 3 times.
I’m not sure that I try to present myself as an “average” or “below average” guy on this website. In fact, it’s just the opposite.
This entire website is about being the top 1% male, or at least- MAXING out your looks, style and social freedom (as well as dick size, etc.).
The last thing I do on this site is encourage people to be average or below average. I don’t think I give any advice that encourages guys to take shortcuts or apply techniques to pretend they are top 1% guys. That’s what the PUA community is for.
To be fair, perhaps there is a misunderstanding here.
A very small minority seem to interpret “average guy” game (compliment, small talk, ask for number) as “Chris is telling us he’s the average guy, but he’s not fooling me!”
“Average guy” game is the type of approach that guys with “average” social freedom can do. The better their looks and style, the better their results. Just like with any type of “game”.
To avoid unintentional misrepresentation in the future, I should probably change “average guy” game to “basic guy” game.
So, for the record, as non-arrogantly as possible, allow me to clear this up- I’m not the average guy.
And I sure as hell didn’t create this website to make you average either.
This type of criticism lends itself to another more reasonable topic-
What can you really learn from Chris?
I’m bias, but I feel that EVERYTHING we endorse (get laid, get ripped, get style, get hung, get juiced, get relaxed, beat approach anxiety, etc.) you can learn. I feel it’s teachable and from my own experience- I feel it’s achievable.
Lets have a closer look and I’ll tell you why.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.Get Laid
I severely underachieved in my dating life in my early 20s. I had year-long droughts where I didn’t so much as kiss a girl. Now, I can pickup super hot girls and bring them home in under an hour. They willingly and happily become my fuck buddies for months on end. This is teachable and achievable if you are willing to put time into MAXING out your looks, style and social freedom. In my opinion, you only need to be above-average at all 3, to enjoy top level success. Humbly spoke- I’m in the top 1% when it comes to getting laid.
Get Ripped
I am no genetic freak. I have worked like hell for every pound of lean mass on my body. In fact, if you were to read our hockey team’s scouting prospectus from 1999-2000 it literally reads, “Chris: Tall, fast defenseman, elite speed north-south, but thin, small frame and lacks the physical size and strength to be elite.” In the process of building my body, I have learned the easiest and most effective ways to achieve your fitness goals. At 6-2, I maintain a 210-220lb. physique at 6 to 8% body fat. with fewer hours in the gym than anyone I know. Building an ideal body is teachable, with effort, it is achievable. Humbly spoke- I’m in the top 1% when it comes to developing and maintaining a masculine body. Frankly, over half the population in the United States is overweight.
Having Style is Good, Having Presence is Better.
Get Style
I don’t claim to be Gianni Versace. I’m not and you don’t need to be either. I have a style that highlights my better features and gets me approached by women. I understand that perception is reality and the immeasurable difference of dressing like a “nice guy” (boyfriend material) versus dressing edgy (I fuck a lot of girls). I can discuss trends and the with any high-fashion model in Los Angeles. I briefly worked with L.A.M.B., Gwen Stefani’s line (it’s a women’s label). Get Style will incorporate other issues- hair loss, acne, tattoos, etc. “Getting Style” is both teachable and achievable, it’s probably the easiest thing to change. Developing a ‘style’ as it related to getting women, is about developing a PRESENCE, becoming a guy that EVERYONE, male or female, stops to look at. While I don’t consider my own ‘style’ to be in the top 1%, my presence is in the top 1% and my understanding of how style works to attract the opposite sex is in the top 1%.
Get Hung
Similar to my physical development, my starting dick size was very average. About ~5.25″ x ~4.7″, I think. Average in length, barely slightly above average in girth. My flaccid size was maybe 2″, pretty small. Through years of less-than-committed penis enhancement and more recent super devotion, my dick is 7.3″ x 6.25″ (post Bathmate session), that is the size that I have when I fuck girls. Like Getting Ripped, Getting Hung is teachable and with effort- achievable. As the charts suggest, humbly spoke- I am in the top 10% in length and the top 1% in girth.
While this is similar to “Get Ripped,” I have made the decision to separate the two sections. Get Ripped will be on the new Good Looking Loser Lifestyle website and Get Juiced will remain home on this website. On the day of my 21th birthday, I started using anabolic steroids. Here is my very first cycle, as you can see- I was really enthusiatic but I had a lot to learn. Since then (and before) I have over a decade of experience with anabolic steroids right down to the advanced pharmacological level. For example, I can explain how two different steroidal compounds may compete for the same androgen receptor while creating progesterone in the process. I was a steroid nerd. and I was a steroid head for most of my 20s. Just like learning biology or chemistry in school, learning to “Get Juiced” is certain learnable and achievable. My understanding of anabolic/androgenic steroids and performance enhancing drugs is in the top 1%. Consider, however, that 90% of people have absolutely no idea how to use steroids.
This section is developing slowly. I have more to say on this and almost more experience than any other topic on GoodLookingLoser.com. This section will offer some absolutely life changing information and resources. I’ll tell you where to get shit, just lemme handle the legal aspects first.
I experienced moderate depression in my early 20s. I think runs in my family. I feel that my social anxiety was slightly higher than the average person in my early-mid 20s. Through exposure therapy, my social anxiety became less than the average person. With certain compounds, however, I feel pretty close to invincible. We are talking- jump off buildings and fly invincible. Through trial and error, you can “Get Relaxed” and beat depression and anxiety. It’s teachable and achievable. You’ll be surprised what happens here. Years of research, ups and downs and personal experience puts my “beat depression and anxiety” IQ in the top 1%.
That covers a lot of the topics but certainly not all of them. As I said, they are teachable, learnable and achievable. I don’t discuss stuff that I’m not an expert on and more importantly- don’t have experience with.
Perhaps long ago, I was ‘average’ in the subjects I mention. My ability to get laid, have a big dick, a big presence, an ideal body, understand anabolic pharmacology, avoid depression and anxiety were either average or non-existent at one point.
If you read this article and nothing else on GoodLookingLoser.com, it may strike you that- I talk a big game. I usually don’t. But- I have no problem giving proof of what I claim. In fact, I think it’s mandatory.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.Look that the various industries and topics on GoodLookingLoser.com-
Male enhancement.
Seduction/pick up artist.
Dietary supplements (Get Ripped).
Can you name 3 more scam filled industries, where you never see so much as even a PICTURE of the person trying to sell you shit? And if you do see a picture, he offers no proof that he has any experience?
I can’t. These are some of the worst industries.
Free information or not, we have a responsibility to provide as much ‘proof’ as possible before we ever ask anyone to follow our advice or purchase a recommendation. In the meantime, we only ask that you keep an open mind, things sometimes aren’t as they seem. I sure found that out.
So, if you want to be humble- that’s fine. That’s probably a good thing if you are ambitious and trying to excel at something.
If you want to be average- that’s not fine. You’ve come to the wrong place. We don’t teach average.
-11:30 Follow a lone girl out the store from behind saying in a normal voice: “I love you x3, HEY, I love u, I love u (*giggles*) did I tell you I love you? (yeah u did) I did? yeah? It’s true. I know it’s kinda random, I thought u were attractive and I wanted to come say hi [extand hand for handshake] (*she just laughs and steps back) aren’t you gonna tell me I’m attractive too? (yeah, haha) Thanks, I’m Chris btw (Aisha) Aisha? That’s a nice name Aisha
-12:13 Without saying anything, Chris moves a few steps to a comfortable spot where he can lean against the wall. She automatically follows as she has been holding his hand since the handshake (NOTE!) Soo, what are u up to today (i don’t know) like shopping for shoes or something? (books) books? yeah? are you a nerd? (not a nerd) not a nerd. u look like… u look like u play the drums (guitar) guitar? seriously? (yeah) nice, are u in a bad? (no) I look like I play the drums. Yeah, u believe it? (no) yeah? what tells you no? x4 [each time more playfully. Chris pulls her hand to his chest as he repeats this, even pulling her little body off-balance] (I don’t believe you) u don’t believe me, why don’t u believe me? (I dont know) u know what? I have no musical talent whatsoever hahaha
-13:03 that’s not fair. you’re supposed to believe I play the drums [POWERFUL LEADING - LITERALLY TELLING HER WHAT SHE'S SUPPOSED TO BELIEVE!!] (u told me you don’t) you’re a smart cookie, u know that? uh huh, a little too smart for your own good (what do u mean?) I’m sorry, I’m sorry, let’s keep it real, no more… this isn’t beer btw, it’s IBC diet root, makes it good… no, no, tell me little about you, where u from? (X) where in X? (by Y) you’re not from elko, are u? I always drive through there and I get a ticket for speeding, do u know what I’m talking about? [again pulls her hand to his chest] have u gotten a ticket there? (i don’t know) it’s a speedtrap (is it?) yeah (maybe u shouldn’t speed) i don’t know, cos it goes on the highway and then it goes through the town, it’s like they built the highway first and then they built the town (haha) u know what I’m saying? (yeah) like purposely to just fuck with me (haha)
-14:10 [re-grab the hand that he let go earlier] so, what more about you, u do music right? are u in a band? (u already asked me that) did I? I have a bad memory, plus I’m drinking. nah, it’s root beer (hah) no, you’re tough, you’re tough haha you’re very cute, like a little girl, a little little girl [the words "little" are emphasized by moving her hand up and down that Chris is gently holding by a three fingers] let’s spin the little girl around [reverse spin her, she's ALL SMILES] a little more about you though, what else u into? (art, I like art) yeah? what kind of art? (I like to draw) draw? drawing… with a name like Aisha, it’s weird how u do that, I can just see your little signature or something at the bottom of the page (bla) uh huh, yeah?
-15:12 so what are u doing this weekend? (I don’t know) playing on pintrest or something? (going out with friends) put your little outfit on and go out with friends haha (haha) [whisper in her ear] you’re tiny, u know that? (you’re a player) what’d u say? (you’re a player) I’m not a player, you’re a player (you’re a player ha) you’re a player (you’re a player) no, you’re a player (you’re a player hah) don’t call me, your mom’s a player (girls breaks down in laughter) Aww, you lost there, u lost there, ur mom’s a player, no u gave it up (I gave it up) I know, u got destroyed [stroke from her shoulder to hand, then hold it] u got taken out (haha ok) u did, u did (I did) u got some time to chill out now? (yeah, completely) really? (really) alriht, cmon, follow me, we’ll go in my car. You’re tiny.
This probably isn’t the first time you’ve heard of “Nice Guy Syndrome,” if it is- that’s okay. We’ll give you a working definition.
If you find this too basic, not to worry- we will discuss Nice Guy Syndrome more in the future. I might have even a specific program that treats/beats the shit out of this disease. For most guys’ sex/dating lives, however, they don’t need a special program, they just want to get used to talking and touching random women, doing what they want more often, finding they have options and realizing their Nice Guy behaviors.
Talking to and initiating physical contact with random women is the opposite of Nice Guy behavior.
My informal 30 second definition is-
Nice Guy Syndrome is an ongoing condition where a “male” repeatably takes approval-seeking actions, with expectations, but no formal contract, that the recipient will repay him with gratitude, affection or other favor. Doing so, over time, results in an internal and external loss of masculinity perception and respect from self and other persons. (GLL 1.1.69, ~Screen That Pussy)
Not bad. I actually wrote that in about 35 seconds.
Nice Guy Syndromeis a condition in men who appear to be always nice (and boring), and who avoid conflict at all costs.
In doing so, they underachieve in their personal and professional lives.
For the average male, I feel Glover’s work to be very good at bringing awareness and workable solutions to this condition. For guys that want to bang 100+ hot girls, have 3-4 fuckbuddies, etc. sometimes more aggressive treatment is needed. More on that another time.
Good Looking Loser Nice Guy
Justtttt like everything else on GoodLookingLoser.com my discussion and solutions come from experience. This is no different.
I had a significantly above-average case of Nice Guy Syndrome. It’s no consequence that the majority of guys that underachieve, or feel like they underachieve, in their dating and sex life have Nice Guy Syndrome. I actually think the “seduction community” was helpful in helping me beat Nice Guy Syndrome. Once I was made aware of Nice Guy Syndrome, I identified my Nice Guy behaviors and relationships and terminated most of them in about 60 days.
I beat Nice Guy Syndrome, I consider it my 2nd or 3rd biggest “inner game” victory, with beating negativity being the 1st.
The interesting thing is- still to this day, even though I “beat” Nice Guy Syndrome, every once in a while I finding myself reverting to past behaviors, both with males and females. Yep, even me. I admit it. It’s pretty seldom, but it evidence that you don’t have to COMPLETELY SLAUGHTER and NEVER AGAIN take a Nice Guy action to scores buckets of top-shelf pussy.
Just beat most of it. Just realizing your behaviors, talking with women and “Do What You Want,” basically kills 95% of it.
This is mostly a topic for a different time, I did want to tell you that I have experience with Nice Guy Syndrome. About 27 years with it!
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Are These Nice Guys or Players? Wow I don’t know…
Mr. Asshole Nice Guy
I knew quite a few guys in the “community” and had a few social-circle friends that were also made aware that they were Nice Guys and sought to beat the disease.
Although I didn’t quite fall this category, their solution was to try to become a total asshole. Or at least act like one.
Certainly being a total asshole is the opposite of being a Nice Guy, right?
Wrong.
The logical opposite of Nice Guy is NOT NICE GUY.
It’s not total asshole, that’s the polar opposite.
The total asshole thing was hardly real and it arguably had a worse effect on their professional and personal lives.
One kid in Florida got fired from his job and I punched another kid in the face. 2 times. Thankfully, they all ditched the act and the intentional bad moods and back to planet Earth.
Optional: Admit when you are wrong. (this works on the ‘pride’ aspect)
Like approach anxiety, daily action and exposure therapy to the new mindset forces it home. It generally dies about as fast as approach anxiety, the two usually require the same duration of treatment.
So again, if there was any confusion- NOT NICE GUY is what we are shooting for. Not total asshole.
Simply doing what you want most of the time will make you more masculine that just about 90% of all male humans.
Some people wear a “WWJD” bracelet “What would Jesus do?” (it’s actually ‘Walk with Jesus daily) to remind them of their Christian faith, you can write on your hand “What should I do?” to remind yourself that you will no longer be a pussy.
No seriously, do it. I did for about 3 weeks in late 2008.
Hitting On Girls On a Daily Basis Will Kill Mr. Nice Guy
Like everything else, we need to keep it simple.
The hours wasted on trying to discover which parent is most responsible for your passive-aggressive behaviors or the meaning of life will bring your progress to a halt or even send you backwards.
Thinking is not progress. Thinking is thinking.
Like I said, only a small minority of guys need a focused program to beat Nice Guy Syndrome. The vast majority can get past Nice Guy Syndrome simply by doing AA drills and gradually transition to hitting on women fairly aggressively.
The AA Drills (coming early December 2012) begin to build proactive, assertive behavior while also reducing your fight or flight response to approaching.
Remember, simply talking or “bothering” women for any reason, let alone socially-acceptable requests such as time, directions or basic opinions is HUGE for the nice guy. Total nice guys just can’t do this, potential conflict is too frightening. Nice guys are worried about getting “caught” doing approach anxiety drills or getting a bad reaction when they are doing something different than being a pussy.
So long as you can go through the AA Drills, you’ll defeat quite a bit of your Nice Guy Syndrome, at least enough to begin to play the numbers game and Get Laid occasionally.
Simply talking to women without their permission, in this day and age, is NOT NICE GUY behavior. For the average guy it is a huge step in reclaiming (or discovering) their masculinity.
Again, just doing what you want and standing up for yourself makes you a NOT NICE GUY, some feminine pussies may confuse you with an asshole or a jerk, but that’s a misnomer.
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Douchebags Get Laid, Can’t Say the Same Thing For Nice Guys
The Asshole Confused
Certainly you’ve heard the statement, “Women like assholes,” or “Women dig jerks,” or “Women dig bad boys.”
If you know me personally, read Reddit or Bodybuilding.com (Misc.) might see the word “Douchebag” associated with my name.
They are all talking about the same character, but a fair amount of socially inexperienced guys confuse the asshole, jerk, bad boy or douchebag for the total asshole.
Again, that’s not what we are talking about.
Women don’t like the total asshole or total jerk. Nobody does.
The “bad boy” is not a hardened war criminal or serial killer. He is just a guy with a little edge. Sometimes, he has no real edge, but just has some facial hair, an edgy pair of jeans or some accessories. Something it’s just a decent jaw line. The bad boy is hardly “bad,” he’s just not a total pussy. It’s a lower standard than we might think. The standard is slightly higher in socially competitive cities such as New York, Los Angeles or any place in Texas.
That might seem obvious, but there’s a fair amount of guys out there don’t quite understand this.
So long as you “do what you want” most of the time, you don’t have to worry about coming off as a Nice Guy or being taken advantage of.
Being Polite Doesn’t Mean You Are a Nice Guy
You can be polite and you can be a douchebag.
I’m very polite. You might be surprised. I’m probably overly polite to random people.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.I say “thank you” to people, hold doors and make small talk with people that are intimidated by me – just to make them feel comfortable. I put my weights back where they go at the gym. I try not to hit people in the face with cigarette smoke. Some of the hot girls I chill with will throw their gum, cigarette butts and coffee cups on the ground without a second thought since nobody will tell them not to, I have them pick their trash up. I especially say “thank you” to cashiers and grocers. They have a job that I would go crazy doing. I appreciate them bagging my food and their effort to keep America running. I thank them behalf of everyone. What a nice guy I am.
All I do is run this creepy blog where I help guys fuck women and get my dick sucked on most day, life is good. Any sort of politeness is actually from the bottom of my heart, not to “get something” or some ulterior motive.
Scotty, too, is pretty polite. He smiles and high fives random people. He gives compliments to people and tries to make them feel better about themselves. Unlike myself in the past and my other friends, I have never heard Scotty talk behind someone’s back or say negative things about people. He’s a sweetheart. Such a nice guy.
No one confuses us for Nice Guys. It’s isn’t just the physical appearance. It’s everything. The clothing, the walk, the diet, things we talk about out loud. There’s no strings attached to our polite behavior.
Being polite means are you are being polite. It may or may not mean you are a pussy Nice Guy.
It’s not the behavior- it’s the place from which it comes.
If you’ve noticed, all my approaches are verbally polite.
“You are attractive,” is basically the first thing I say 90% of the time. Sometimes, I even say “sorry” or “I know this is random,” I can do this because I’m not perceived as a little bitch, in fact just the opposite- maybe politeness even help me. If you feel you have similar characteristics, I encourage you to be polite if you want to be.
Where the “politeness” ends is in the physical dialogue. It is not polite to touch anyone unless you know them pretty well.
We break that rule.
What it looks like is “laid-back aggressive” game. Verbally polite, perhaps funnyish/normal with a rising physical dialogue that completely changes the meaning of the interaction. This is the style that both of us have. I’m a little more verbally “haha” than Scotty, but he moves faster. But remember, I learned a lot of this stuff from him.
Without getting too technical, you can be as polite as you want so long as your physical dialogue is established and slowly rising. It’s not about the words anyway. You’ll never get confused for a Nice Guy.
Nice Guys don’t touch random women let alone alone speak to them.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.Polite Scumbag of the Century:
Wilt Chamberlain (RIP)
While we never quite know what the real deal is with celebrities or personal athletes, let’s pretend we know Wilt Chamberlain.
I apologize if this isn’t 100% factually accurate, just take a look at the main point.
He was a Center for the Los Angeles Lakers and the first 7-foot player in the NBA. He was more dominant than Shaquille O’neal and arguably the most dominant athlete ever in any sport. Wilt once scored 100 points in an NBA game, something nobody even has or will come close to breaking.
Wilt was both the ultimate gentleman and the ultimate scumbag.
You could say the two cancel each other out and he’s a gentle-scumbag, lets just call it “Polite Scumbag.”
While that may or may not be true (1 new woman every 17.6 hours), Wilt’s personality combined with his celebrity status and 11+ inch dick provided him a limitless sex life. Supposedly, he’d literally move from girl to girl as their pussies crumbled on a special made king-sized bed in a Bel-Air mansion that is just around the corner from where I’m typing this.
Though even our best efforts couldn’t replicate his celebrity status or foot-sized cock, lets look at the personality.
Wilt was polite.
He’d actually go on dates with women, he’d rent a limo, he’d show up with flowers, he’d take them to a nice restaurant, he’d pose in pictures with the lucky ladies, he’d let them order whatever they wanted, he’d pay and he’d leave a generous tip.
During the meal, he’d get up from his seat and sit down next to women at other tables and politely talk to them, he’d take their number, he’d organize plans, he’d buy them drinks, he’d kiss them (respectfully, no tongue), he’d tell them he loved them and then he’d return to the table where his date was sitting and tell her he loved her too.
On his way out of the restaurant, with his date on one arm, he’d scan the room for pretty ladies an politely introduce himself to all of them, ask all of them for their numbers, make sure they had drinks, he’d humbly sign autographs for those who wanted, and even might give a rose to a special girl.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.
Modern Day Look At Wilt Chamberlain’s House (Bel-Air)
He arrive a home, ask his date (who was usually totally humiliated) what music she liked to listen to, he’d pour her a drink, slowly undress her, compliment her on her body with words with “beautiful” and “sensational” and fuck the living shit out of her.
She’d go home in a limo with some fresh flowers and a gift (sometimes cash, although she wasn’t a hooker). Wilt would start to phone other women if he didn’t have a basketball game the next day.
Wilt wasn’t a liar.
He loved women, all of them.
Now we can’t dismiss that his celebrity was responsible for the vast majority of his success.
Wilt was a celebrity that played the numbers game. Big time.
This is rare.
You may be surprised, but there are plenty of [lesser] celebrities in Los Angeles that are petrified to approach women because they don’t actually have great self-esteem and look a bit different than they do in their airbrushed photos. Like normal guys, they are limited to their social circle, albeit a circle with no shortage of hotties and high-status women.
Still, if you were actually behave like Wilt did- literally introducing your to every single woman you found attractive (he had low standards) and politely asking for their number, you’d never have to read GoodLookingLoser.com again and you’d Get Laid than every single person in the PUA community, including the mainstream gurus. You’d be drowning in so much pussy that you’d have to get a secretary to schedule fuck sessions. If this happens, we encourage you to write in and give your testimonial.
There’s a some perspective on “Nice Guy” Syndrome.
Action
The Approach Anxiety drills and simply talking and touching women and “do what you want” will help you beat it. Simply doing that should put you ahead of 90% of guys. Once you beat most of it, you’re fine. You can be polite as you want to women, so long as you establish a rising physical dialogue. So, after you read this you never have wonder “what to say” again, say whatever you want.
We’ve discussed this on the forum and I have a Youtube video on it. But I’ve never formally wrote anything up on “retention” or maintaining fuck buddies.
I’m euphoric as hell and that’s when I’m at my BEST… so here goessss-
This is some high[er] level stuff and pretty much unnecessary if you are just starting out, in fact- you might be better off NOT reading it and just staying focused on beating your AA or bringing that 1st fuck buddy.
This is one of my favorite subjects and something I am able to do really really well. This is the type of shit that you can ONLY learn from lots of experience with countless women and observation of others’ success rates. There’s no goofball PUA that can even piece this stuff together, you really have to get intimate with a lot of girls to figure it out. I’m going to try to explain it as best as I can so you retain (or at least learn how to) ALL your fuck buddies.
If there was a “skill” I did best, this would be it. Better than picking up girls, better than getting busy from dates, better than enlarging my dick. Excuse the self-promo, I don’t usually do that (people already think I’m a douchebag), but I can honestly say— what I suggest really works. It’s powerful.
Video: “Retention” (keep f-buddies in uncommitted relationships)
Additional Discussion (NOT IN TEXT BELOW)
14:50 THE GIRL IS CHASING YOU FOR A RELATIONSHIP, YOU ARE SCREENING THE GIRL
15:20 Try to keep an open mind, who knows
16:00 For a solid relationship = make the girl chase you for 6+ months
16:45 Why you need to be chased for 6+ months
17:30 DTR (Define The Relationship) Discussion, don’t YOU go there
18:25 When the girl brings up the DTR, how to handle it**
20:00 What to say to handle the DTR and kill it for a while, “disappointed” and talking politically correct circles
21:35 This works 99% of the time, it’s worked for me 100% of the time actually
***handling DTR discussions
1. let the chick talk
2. just repeat what she says, make her talk again and tire herself out
3. [if you need to] say “damn.. well… I gotta say.. I’m umm.. Kinda disappointed with this. Stuff is going really good between us.. right? I think so. It’s moving along great. Right? Yeah I think so. I hate when it reaches a point when we need to put a title and expectations on stuff.. I’d rather it just reach that point naturally. I think it’s probably headed that way, right? I mean I’ve thought about it. It’s much more healthy to let things grow naturally, like we’ve been doing. This talk really upsets me cause things have been going so well.” (the girl will feel guilty and back down on the DTR shit)
you can also say, “in past relationships, we put time limits, rules and titles on things.. it messed stuff up, I should have just let things evolve, thats what I’m worried about. Things are great between us and they are moving along naturally, trust me on this. I don’t want to mess stuff up.”
Lets start at the beginning I mean, the very beginning.
When you meet her. The first 10 seconds.
Nice Guy, Good Guy or Scumbag?
Within 10 seconds of meeting a girl, if she’s sexually available and interested- she’ll profile you. Even though we screen, it’s inevitable.
She will either see you as a Nice Guy, Good Guy or Scumbag, or a combination of 2 of 3.
A lot goes into this profile.
What you are wearing: Super clean Nice Guy? More edgy player?
How you approach her: Pussy opinion opener? Or ballsy direct stuff?
What you look like: Do you Get Laid? Do you not Get Laid?
Your lifestyle: Are you cool? Are you a loser? Do you do drugs (a lot/sometimes)? Are you 100% straight edge?
There’s more to this profile than I can possibly list, you’ll think of some. I think you get the point though.
There’s a dramatic difference between the 3 profiles.
Below are generalizations not EVERY profile will be 100% accurate. There’s some cross-over anyway.
I’m 66% good guy, 33% scumbag, the girl I brought home last Tuesday told me.
Let’s jump on the first one.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.Nice Guy (Boyfriend Material)
The Nice Guy dresses like most everyone else that isn’t sexually active. Plain. No accessories. He usually is a bit outdated since he feels a fashion sense is only for girls and gays. Even if he’s good looking, he usually doesn’t have anything more than an average sex-appeal since he’s usually scared to stand out.
In short, the Nice Guy is boyfriend material, at best.
He is a safe guy that probably doesn’t Get Laid too much. He’s not particularly cool. He’s completely predictable. He’d make a wonderful boyfriend and probably a good husband if he’s financially secure. He’s probably very average in bed. He’s probably unexciting. He’s not a challenge. It takes him 5+ dates to Get Laid if he’s lucky. He doesn’t date or fuck multiple women. Not because he’s against it- he can’t.
He’s probably judgmental because he doesn’t Get Laid much and rationalizes it by telling society that he doesn’t want “sluts” because they are dirty. He probably has plenty of friends that are exactly like him. He usually works for somebody else. He makes jokes, that’s usually his personally at his best. He might try to get girls into relationships in 2 weeks because he’s so insecure. In the near future, he can provide dinner and movie and perhaps a house, 2 cars, 2 children, a dog and a white-picket fence at a later date.
I DO NOT suggest you try to come off as a Nice Guy (boyfriend material) if you are trying to Get Laid. Frankly, I don’t recommend it even if you want to get a girlfriend. Nice Guys aren’t a challenge. Hot girls can Get Laid any night they want. The pussy is sexually available when they decide. Hot girls know that Nice Guys can’t Get Laid so they hold less leverage in the relationships.
Good Guy (Boyfriend Potential/Player)
This is generally what I suggest that you shoot for. It is the best profile for retention.
Good players (players) generally dress with a little more edge than Nice Guys. They go fora “sexy” look more than “I want to fit in, please don’t notice me.” They aren’t necessarily loaded with accessories or tattoos, but they have a few which, if nothing else- show that they are fashionably sensible. They don’t wear outdated clothing or stuff that doesn’t fit them because they know it’s important to Get Laid. They do Get Laid and the women they approach generally know it.
In short, the Good Guy is a player but he seemingly has a “good” (sweet) side that gives him boyfriend potential. Again, he has “boyfriend potential” but he is not strictly “boyfriend material,” big difference.
The Good Guy is a challenge. He’s cool. He gets lots of ass so he’s not needy. At the same time, he has relationship qualities that would probably make him a great boyfriend too. It’s hard for girls to walk on the Good Guy because he won’t tolerate it and he can go fuck other girls. At the same time, he’s not a total scumbag that she can’t show her family and friends. In fact, she brags to her friends that she’s dating him. He usually dates multiple women and usually has fuck buddies on a continuous basis until he gets into a committed relationship where he’s faithful. He’s probably non-judgmental and doesn’t call girls that get more ass than him “sluts.” There’s no reason for him to be judgmental, he gets (or looks like) plenty of sex. He seems like he can Get Laid on the 1st date, but sometimes he ends up waiting if he sets off his “boyfriend potential” alarm too much or the girl is just not DTF. He can be a good or better provider than the Nice Guy, but it will take a lot of time and effort to convince him to stop fucking other girls and to settle down.
A challenge that the VERY HOTTEST GIRLS love and totally obsess over. This could be the dream guy that has his shit together.
I recommend working toward being this fictitious character. I have spent 5 years, non-stop, working at it.
*Sometimes a Nice Guy that is super good looking is mistaken for a Good Guy (player), since girls assume he actually tags a lot of pussy. This is generally shorted lived because he’s not the least bit aggressive.
This isn’t for everyone. I do recommend that guys build some sort of ‘scumbag’ element into their persona. Scumbags literally don’t care what anyone thinks, after all- they are scumbags and they know it.
Believe it or not, scumbags don’t all look like Scotty (tattoos, accessories. EDGE to the MAX). They come in various shapes and sizes. They are all very aggressive and usually pretty crude verbally. They are usually more comfortable with their profile than the Nice Guy and sometimes even the Good Guy.
The scumbag Gets Laid A LOT, even if sometimes he doesn’t look like he does.
His vibe, however, suggests that he does… A LOT. He’s can come off very self-centered and confident, something that ALL girls like. Girls pick up on this vibe immediately. They know they have a scumbag in their presence and will decide in 20 seconds whether to fuck him because scumbags are generally really good in bed since they are experienced and masculine.
The flip side of it- the scumbag isn’t a safe guy and wouldn’t make a good boyfriend. In some cases, his vibe (and sometimes appearance) is something a girl would NEVER want to show her friends or family. What do you see in THIS GUY??? The scumbag is the guy they fuck the SAME day/night and NEVER tell anyone about.
Because of this unfortunate situation, it’s hard to retain girls if you are a total scumbag.
95% of girls are willing to become fuck buddies and risk getting heartbroken if the guy looks like he could be a good boyfriend one day.
The scum bag won’t be, so he generally doesn’t tag that pussy more than 3 times.
The good news for the scum bag is- he ONLY/usually gets girls that are DTF.
The scumbag Gets Laid VERY quickly, usually faster than the Good Guy. He’s a scumbag. That’s what he does. The only reason girls talk to this seemingly wretched individual is to get fucked. For one reason or another he usually doesn’t get caught up in the emotional aspects of relationships too easily. Sociopaths are a sub-set of scumbags, but they are different than the average scumbag.
As you can see, the first 10 seconds of your first interaction is critical to your retention. You might have to do some thinking. It’s okay, unlike most dating subjects, this one is worth some thought.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.What Are the Fuck Buddies Looking For?
It’s important to understand this from the female’s POV on why they agree to become bed bunnies in the first place.
You might have noticed this in the scum bag profile-
95% of girls are willing to become fuck buddies and risk getting heartbroken if the guy looks like he could be a good boyfriend one day.
The vast majority of girls that become your fuck buddies, are ultimately looking for a relationship.
This is NOT to say that they were only looking for a relationship/boyfriend when you hit on them, they were very much sexually available (sometimes DTF), but their ultimate goal is to lock you down if it’s working out.
That is why the Good Guy (boyfriend potential/player) profile is best. He is sexy enough to pickup girls and has the boyfriend potential to keep them around.
The remaining ~5% are willing to become fuck buddies just because the sex is good. If you are well hung and good in bed, there’s a chance that you retain most, if not all of these girls.
Keeping Girls Around (Retention)
If you accept that the majority of your fuck buddies are ultimately looking for a relationship, then you probably have an idea of how to keep them around.
Progress. Slowly.
Progress is emotional progress, getting the girl emotionally attached (and in some cases, genuinely sharing the emotionally attachment). In a perfect dynamic, she “chases” you and is sitting around waiting for your phone call. While this dynamic can’t always be created, there are definitely some rules and techniques that significantly help your retention success and your overall productivity/efficiency.
The biggest mistake guys, especially Nice Guys, make is trying to lock girls too quickly or pouring out their heart on the 1st date. It kills the chase. It doesn’t make girls work. It doesn’t allow you the moment after sex when the girl wondering if she’ll ever see you again. Remember- it should be the girl trying to lock you down, not the other way around.
You need give progress VERY SLOWLY. The girl needs to EARN progress. Got it?
This is where gets good.
I have very specific, totally applicable rules that you can apply your relationship that will exponentially increase your chances at retention and grip on the relationships.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.No Social Media With Fuckbuddies
Slow Progress Technique/Rule I:
Effective, Limited Communication
You need to keep the communication/contact to a minimum, but just enough to keep her waiting for your phone call.
Only meet up 1 time every 7 days OR 2 times every 10 days.
Only text or talk to her on the phone 2 times a week or 3 times every 10 days, for no longer than 20 minutes.
Ideally, your texts/calls are ONLY to set up meet ups. You will make PLENTY of emotional progress in person, there is no need to give her free progress on the phone or text.
Set up meet ups no longer than 72 hours in advance.
Text 2-3 hours before the meetup to confirm.
Since you have already had sex with her, you can set up the meet up via phone or text. I usually choose phone.
Along with limiting the communication, you should limit the emotional progress to where she is always wanting more.
This is easy, so lets not overthink it.
It also happens naturally so you don’t exactly have to “do it.”
Basically you need to make ‘boyfriend-ish gestures’ every once in a while, maybe 1 out of every 2 or 3 meet ups.
Here are some examples:
Paying for a small meal (or big meal if you are rich)
Giving her a single flower
Making dinner for both of you
Talking in-depth about your childhood
Talking in-depth about your future
A more traditional date, an activity that couple may do
A random kiss on the cheek
Draw her a picture
Develop inside jokes
By her dessert
Open a car door
A long walk
Shop together
Buy her a inexpensive gift
Insist on lighting her cigarettes
Sleepover and watch TV in bed
Have her meet your friends
Throw a party WITH her (not for her)
Go to her party
Have her meet your family (mid/late stage)
A sweet text (mid-stages) “hey i was just thinkin about u kidd”
A longer phone call (mid-stages)
A non-sex meet up (only mid/late stage)
There’s a ton of these.
With the exception of Scotty, nearly every guy knows how to play the boyfriend role. It’s the other part that we need to work on. If you have question about ‘boyfriendish gestures’, just ask. Ask me, not Scotty though. haha.
If you have less than 2 fuck buddies (or have the time) consider this technique, I call it “expected surprises.”
I learned it my first year in Los Angeles all the way up to meeting my goal of 4 hot women as fuck buddies.
Basically leading up to EVERY “date” you text the girl or tell her on the phone that you have surprise for her. Most girls get super excited and want to know what it is, don’t tell them. Do this over-and-over and girls will always be super excited to meet up with you. Don’t overkill it, remember- she ALREADY likes you and you still have to lean closer to SLOW progress.
The surprises can be anything, here are some that I have done-
Mixers to make her favorite drink
Inexpensive gift
Protein shake
Tickets to an event (inexpensive)
Sex technique + video on the internet (I have this technique where I eat the girl while she lays on my face)
Drugs
Flower(s)
Fun spot to go
Movie
Naked picture of you
Massage
New location to have sex
New sex lube, sex toy
Read her a children’s book (I’m so dumb I can’t read good)
One piece of organic fruit
Scented candle
Blindfold
Cigars
Hung Dick (if you haven’t slept together yet)
It may seem like “beta” behavior, it can be- but it can also be SUPER ALPHA EXCITING LEADERSHIP, remember actions/behaviors aren’t alpha/beta, the GUY is. It’s where the action/behavior comes from and the motivation behind it. Remember too, these are SUPER SMALL surprises, nothing that comes off as ‘gift’ – it should be something you both enjoy most of the time and be very inexpensive.
When I started doing this, I was pretty insecure. But it turned out to be a super effective technique and let me retain 2 high-level fuck buddies for an entire summer in 2008 while I still had AA. Once I got more girls, I didn’t have time to do the surprises, but I’d use the technique every now and then because I genuine like my fuck buddies.
You just have to make sure these aren’t coming across as gifts. The best way to do it is to include yourself in the surprise. If it’s a cigar, smoke it together. If it’s a flavored sex lube, put it on your dick and fuck her mouth. You get the point.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.Slow Progress Technique/Rule IV:
Mixed Messages (optional):
Since the beginning of time, sending ‘mixed messages’ has always been an effective intentional or unintentional to make pussy chase (so long as they like you).
I consider it optional since the limited communication combined with controlled progress gestures automatically sends a 24/7 mixed message. The girl is thinking, “this guy likes me but why doesn’t he text or call me…” Non-verbal mixed messages are the best.
The most basic mixed message is to say something and have your actions reflect otherwise.
Natural players will often tell girls, “I love you,” “I really dig you kidd,” or “You are special, I love spending time with you,” but then not call them for days.
The girl will be in a tailspin trying to analyze the situation with 4 of her little friends.
Basically after you make a nice verbal or non-verbal progress gestureyou do something that shuts the progress down.
For example, after you have wonderful night of fun, emotional talks and sex with your girl, ignore her texts for 48-72 hours.
It could be even as subtle as repeating a question that she already answered, “What’s your last name again?”
But remember the mixed messages aren’t supposed to be MEAN. Don’t scream at the girl or fuck up her car. I don’t do this too much unless a girl starts giving me problems, I don’t suggest you compromise your ethics to retain irritating pussy.
Lets not harp on too many techniques, we aren’t dependent-delusional pickup artists, but this style fits a lot of guys pretty well.
Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.High Quality, High Status Lifestyle
Despite the powerful techniques and deep understanding of retention, the reason I (and ultimately you) will be successful at it with top-shelf women, is your lifestyle.
Admittedly, you could argue that only(?) reason girls agree to fuck me for 6+ months (and still return after that) is because of my overall lifestyle. Some of them probably know they aren’t actually getting anywhere with me.
A lot of my friends retain girls for “longer than they should have” because of their lifestyle. I took a long hard look at it.
It’s a huge factor, probably the most important.
Let me explain.
Through obsessive self-improvement, experience, social skills, my job as a personal trainer, access to elite Hollywood nightlife/drugs/semi-important/barely-important people, a respectable dick and shear luck- I’ve have built a pretty cool life.
Other than on my super sloppy drunk approaches, most girls (even the hottest ones) know that my life is probably cooler than theirs.
Maybe that sounds arrogant, sorry. I have spent tens of thousands of hours working on myself, I’ve come a long way because I was once undersexed, very depressed, anxious and negative. I encourage you to do the same, that’s why you are here.
Since chicks generally know that I’m cooler than they are, they want to be part of my lifestyle.
Some want to me try to get them an audition at some studio, some want my friend in the music biz. to listen to their demo tape, some want me to get them in great shape, some want me to get their friends into clubs and some just want to do whatever I want.
I’m happy to do stuff for the chicks AFTER I know they are loyal and have above-average integrity. It’s not “beta,” they already like me and know that I’m cooler than they are. They are happy to be apart of my life.
It’s NOT a “business” deal like when certain guys give girls (and their friends) cocaine to fuck, I extend opportunities to them AFTER I get to know/fuck them them a little bit.
The closer you are to the top 1% of guys and the cooler your lifestyle, the easier retention will be.
You should strive to reach your potential FOR YOU, not for pussy. But it sure won’t hurt you if you get there.
Why Some Guys with Good Looks, Style, Social Freedom are Underachieving with Women…
This is one of the main reasons that a lot of guys are unsuccessful at getting a lot of top-shelf women. Even guys with pretty good Looks, Style and Social Freedom that REALLY play the numbers game. This is the lesser and more complex 4th (and final) factor.
This is an interesting topic.
A complex one, even though I try to simplify it while covering it from head-to-toe.
This one has taken me over 6 days to write and mull over. (I even tripped out on ACID to gain further insight. I’m just kidding. Don’t believe every word I say.)
This some of the very best stuff on this entire site. You won’t find stuff like this anywhere else. If you feel you’ve been underachieving, you might want to take 7-10 days to go through this discussion. I don’t usually say that, I just think that this subject is really worth understanding 100%.
Unlike most topics where I just yell at you, “~Screen that pussy!@#!, NEXT!! Okay she’s DTF, take her to a private place!@!” this one was a challenge even though the conclusion is obvious.
My Background
Despite the name “Good Looking Loser,” Social Skills (and something I call ‘Swag Factor‘) were not elements that I really lacked. I had above-average Social Skills in 2006 and now I have slighty-above-above-average Social Skills. I’m not that social butterfly guy and I never want to be.
If you are interested in my journey, this tucked-away discussion sheds light on it-
In my early/mid 20s- I was a pretty cool kid that was underachieving in my sex life because I was a total pussy, had a lot of nice guy issues and literally “didn’t know” what I was doing in my early 20s. All fairly “fixable” things. I had body image issues as well (early 20s). So, the insights I’ve collected on this topic don’t specifically come from direct experience but rather- HOURS and HOURS of evaluating and organizing personality types among students that succeed quickly, succeed slowly, fail slowly or fail quickly.
The most telling “subjects” were the students that were decent looking, had decent fashion sense and above-average social freedom but [AT BEST] could NEVER score anything above average girls on a consistent basis. Also telling were the guys that had a tremendous amount of social freedom but still could not get laid… ever. Unfortunately, countless numbers of guys in the PUA community had to fall on their face (and not get up) for me to gain insight on this.
I’m here to give an insightful, yet temporarily incomplete answer to “What’s Wrong?”
Don’t worry, despite the disclaimer, the concepts I talk about are going to be 1000x more relevant, productive and “insightful” than most any other PUA-monkey site where the guys are simply Internet marketers that don’t get any hot, wet, oh my God Chris-she’s-8.5-years-younger-than-you Venice Beach pussy.
If you are “stuck” and have made the legitimate effort to have above-average looks, style, social freedom AND play the numbers game- this post is for you.
This certainly won’t be the last one on this topic either.
Off to theory land… and away we goooo….
Disclaimer
Despite the insane amount of information in this discussion, remember- You DON’T need to be much more than “above-average” with your SWAG FACTOR to succeed at a ridiculously high level. Do not get discouraged. I have devoted ~4 years of my life to sleeping with hot girls, of course- I know all this.
“Swag Factor: The Missing Piece to Getting Consistent Top-Shelf Pussy” (Video 1/3)
This is of my very best stuff, I suggest you watch these videos.
Give your a whole week to read/watch this discussion.
Table of Contents in Youtube video description.
The Plateau
Some guys, a minority of guys, achieve above-average Looks, Style and Social Freedom but it doesn’t translate to an above-average sex life.
They are “stuck” getting average looking girls and only a slightly above-average quantity of them, at best.
I’m going to tell you what the problem is and which guys tend to encounter this.
Since the topic is extensive, in future articles we’ll have a little discussion about how to fix it.
Fundamentals to Get Pussy
If you are familiar with our material (or just have a non-weirdo view) on how to Get Laid, you’ll know that the majority of getting laid comes down to 3 things-
Looks
Style
Social Freedom
Looks and Style can be combined and called “Sex Appeal.”
So if you have above-average“Sex Appeal” and “Social Freedom,” and you are willing to play the numbers game (hit on 20+ girls a week), you will have the opportunity to have at least an above-average sex life in both quality and quantity. Generally if a guy with above-average Sex Appeal and Social Freedom hits on 20+ girls a week, he will be in the top 1 or 2% of all men on the face of the earth.
Remember- the average guy doesn’t speak to humans he does not know. He just stares at his feet in silence.
Above-average Looks, Style and Social Freedom only translates into an above-average sex life IF you have an above-average level of “Coolness.” If people do not perceive you as a cool guy, you will only be able to score with average girls, at best.
Your “Coolness,” plays a significant role the in QUALITY of the woman you get and your ability to retain HOT girls as fuckbuddies.
As of January 2013, we haven’t totally focused on Coolness because the average guy just needs to guy off his ass and work on his Looks, approach anxiety and put on some cooler clothes that communicates he isn’t totally sexually-inactive to start getting results.
What is Swag Factor (Coolness)?
Swag Factor (Coolness) is
the level that the general population perceives you to fall within the social hierarchy; and
your ability to increase or reinforce your position.
The PUA Community calls this “Social Value,” while I actually I agree with the concept, it only tells half the story.
Social Freedom ≠ Swag Factor (Coolness)
This is an issue that I didn’t have a complete understanding of… until a couple of days ago. I was a pretty cool kid. Once I got social freedom, the top girls could see it and I started to land them. I generally assumed that once a guy got Social Freedom than the HOT pussy would arrive on his doorstep. If it wasn’t working, than he needed to put on some Cool clothes or get to the gym and that would finish the job. True for most, but not for some.
Swag Factor (Coolness) is related to Social Freedom, but it’s not entirely the same thing.
A Cool guy has Social Freedom; but a Socially Free guy isn’t always cool.
Since “Coolness” is vague, it’s important to understand- we are talking about Social Coolness.
Social Skills (Ability to communicate or raise your position)
Element 1: Social Status (Social Presence)
Social Status is the perception of your relative position in the social hierarchy.
Like Looks, Style and Social Freedom, you will want to have at least above-averageSocial Status if you want to score top-shelf twat consistently.
For non-celebrity girls, in general, their Social Status is determined by how hot they are.
For non-celebrity guys, in general, our Social Status is determined by an extensive range of perspective criteria. (see below)
That perspective criteria, in addition to Looks and Style (Sex Appeal/Sexual Presence) will make a guy “stand out” and have positive Social Presence.
Social Status (Presence) is SUPER IMPORTANT if you want to fuck and retain the hottest girls. After all, most of them dedicate their young adult years to MAX’ing out their social status. They want to be with a MAN on their level or above them. Superficial or not, if you want to fuck the hottest girls- you NEED to understand this. Just as we profile girls via “screening,” and just looking at them- women are going to profile you too. It isn’t changing no matter how upset you get about it. Understand it and learn how to use it to your advantage.
Within seconds, based on your overall presentation (appearance, clothing, vibe, age, friends, etc.), women will have or guess the answers to numerous status questions and there will generally be a consensus among her peers.
Below is a very general list based on how HOT sexually-available high status girls think.
It is in no way a comprehensive list and level of importance among criteria will vary from girl to girl.
You certainly DO NOT have to get a definite “YES” to each question to fuck the girl.
But for elite women- you shouldn’t get a definite “NO” on any more than about 3 or 4 of these questions, especially in socially competitive cities.
43 Social Status (Profile) Questions from Sexually-Available Hot Girls ^List complied by- Me and 2 Nothing-Short-of-Really-Hot girls (Blake & Adriana) in 21 minutes and 9 seconds
Is this guy on my level: Is this guy’s coolness on the level with my hotness?
Is this guy cool?
Is this guy cooler than I am? Or at least equal?
Is this guy cooler than my friends?
Is this guy cooler than the other guys here?
Does this guy think he is cool?
Does this guy have good genetics?
Can I bring this guy around my friends?
Is this guy part of the “in-crowd” or is he an outsider?
Does he roll with cool guys or are his friends total losers?
Can I be seen with this guy?
Is this guy comfortable with his body?
Would this guy be comfortable seeing me naked?
Is this guy comfortable around girls like me?
Does this guy have Hot Girls as friends?
Is it cool to fuck this guy?
If I fucked this guy what would my friends say?
Does other hot girls find this guy attractive?
Is he tall?
Is this guy healthy?
Does this guy smell good?
Does this take guy care of his body?
Is this guy sexually active?
Is this guy physically active?
Is this guy good in bed?
Does this guy have sex with hot women? Or just he just jerk off to them?
Is this guy hung or have at least a above-average sized penis?
Is this guy connected? Does he have access to stuff that I don’t have access to?
Is this guy wealthy? Or he can this guy at least support himself?
Is this guy fun to be around?
Is this guy a leader? Or a follower?
Does this guy have a cool lifestyle or is he a loser?
What kind of “job” does this have?
Does this guy have something cool going on in his life?
Is this guy comfortable with standing out?
Can this guy defend himself in a fight?
Do other guys look up to this guy?
Is this guy “stingy” in bed?
Do people take advantage of this guy?
Is sex “no big deal” to this guy?
Is this guy non-judgmental? Or does this refer to sexually active girls as ‘sluts’?
Is this guy a good guy/scumbag and not a nice guy?
Is this guy physically active?
Again, you don’t have to have a definite “YES” to all of these questions. You just shouldn’t get a definite “NO” to a lot of them.
Chances are, you if think the answer is “NO,” then it’s almost certain that the everyone thinks the same.
“Swag Factor: The Missing Piece to Getting Consistent Top-Shelf Pussy” (Video 2/3)
This is of my very best stuff, I suggest you watch these videos.
Give your a whole week to read/watch this discussion.
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When they are sexually available and not looking for a boyfriend-
Adriana’s (22/f, Model, Super Cute, Sweetheart) 3 most important questions are-
1) Is this guy on my level: Is this guy’s coolness on the level with my hotness?
2) Is this guy cool?
14) Is this guy comfortable around girls like me?
Adriana says: I literally took 40 minutes to decide on these. But questions 1 and 2 shed light on whole picture. If he’s cool, I hope he likes me too.
Blake’s (25/f, Singer/Model, Super Hot, Bitchy/Annoying) 3 most important questions are-
1) Is this guy on my level: Is this guy’s coolness on the level with my hotness?
32) Does this guy have a cool lifestyle or is he a loser?
38) Is this guy “stingy” in bed?
Blake says: A guy is either cool he isn’t. You can tell in the first 30 seconds. I don’t get it wrong too often.
In future discussion, we’ll talk about how to “be cooler,” it is an extensive lifestyle topic. As you know, techniques and routines (DHVs) do not have a significant effect on your social status/social presence.
Element 2: Social Skills
(Swag Factor/Social Coolness)
Social Skills are your ability to increase or establish your position with the social hierarchy.
While you certainly don’t need “elite” social skills, you should be above-average and be able to have and lead a normal conversation with a girl and her friends.
There are two major aspects of Social Skills (Swag Factor/Coolness)-
Relating to Hot Women on Relative Socially High-Value Subjects
Small Talk (General Social Skills, Cool Vibe, Comfort Level)
I. Relating to Hot Girls on Relative Socially High-Value Subjects
The measuring stick for “Social Skills,” especially how the socially-awkward “authorities” in the PUA community present it, once again- only tells half the story.
The part they focus on is what I call “general small talk,”it goes something like this- after you “create attraction,” ask this-
What is your name? (give your name when she asks you)
Where are you from? (give your place of birth when she asks you)
What do you do? (give your occupation when she asks you)
etc.
If you can ask those questions and give answers back – then you have Social Skills!
Not exactly.
At best, you have the ability to make the “very general small talk,” not bad… but no normal human being is going to confuse that having great Social Skills. More importantly- only making very general small talk usually won’t suggest that you a cool guy.
True Social Skills run MUCH deeper. But don’t think that you have to have great Social Skills. Like Looks, Style, Social Freedom-above-average will suffice.
What is important is that you can relate to THE GIRLS YOU WANT TO BANG on socially-valuable subjects.
Example 1: Aspiring Actresses/Models
I have a thing for actresses and models… or actually- just HOT girls. Turns out, so many HOT girls in Los Angeles consider themselves actresses or models. Many of them are FAR from it but their backgrounds/goals/lifestyle are almost always similar.
The story is usually the same- scroll past this if you don’t care, it’s entertaining though Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.
They aren’t usually from Los Angeles.
They were the HOTTEST girls in their small town, high school, college.
They were basically “local celebrities” because of it.
They were told they do could anything they wanted to do in life.
They moved to Los Angeles and they are scared to death of “not making it.”
They will question if moving to Los Angeles was the right decision.
Even though they put on a front, they aren’t where they want to be in their career.
They agree that most everyone in Los Angeles is nice, but they don’t have many/any real friends.
They have a “best friend” in Los Angeles but they don’t actually like her that much.
They miss their real friends.
There friends at home are super jealous and living vicariously through them.
If they had a good relationship with their mother and father- they miss them so much.
The pressures of looking good gets to them.
They are living paycheck to paycheck, usually getting financial support of no more than $1500 from their parents.
Their parents are stressed out because of this.
They are stressed out because of it.
They work a job as a waitress, bartender, mall girl, hostess so they can have to act/model/sing/party.
They feel guilty for their lifestyle. (this about 50/50)
Like me, they don’t have a schedule.
They shop when they get depressed.
They shop when they are super happy.
They shop if they have nothing to do.
They saw another girl earlier than day and thought, “She so beautiful… She’s probably an actress/model… I don’t look like her.”
They starting to consider plastic surgery because they no longer feel hot enough.
They check to see if there is SPF in their mineral makeup.
They order the “fat-free” version of everything, which has a ton of sugar in it which is worse for them.
They don’t lift weights at the gym because they think it will turn them into a muscle-bound freak.
They aren’t able to afford the prescription medicines that they need.
They love to party (first 2.5 years in Los Angeles).
They call partying “networking,” but they know that they are partying and not taking their career as seriously as they should.
They generally live in a cheap apartment/house room in North Hollywood/Gendale/Studio City aka “The Valley.”
They see the beautiful mansions in Beverly Hills, Bel Air and Agoura Hills and wonder if they’ll live there one day or go back home.
If they go home, they think that everyone will know that they failed.
They think the guys in Los Angeles are too short.
They think the guys in Los Angeles (especially the wanna-be actors) have small penises.
They think “name dropping” is stupid, yet they do it and explain that “it’s different” when they do it.
They actually think social competition is stupid, but they are OBSESSED with it.
They only smoke when they drink, or at least what they tell guys.
They smoke light cigarettes because they think they are “better for you.”
They are seeing that Hollywood is a small town.
They hate drama.
They live for drama.
They compare their relationship/hook ups with their friends.
They have at least 2 gay friends.
They know that cool people shop at Trader Joe’s and not cool people shop at Ralph’s/etc.
They have considered medication for their psychological problems (even if they don’t have one).
They feel like a Hollywood actress in a movie at the club, the finale of being slammed with an endowed dick is storybook for them.
The majority of the day is spent texting and editing pictures to put up on Facebook or Instagram.
They love reality TV, E! and Bravo.
They love Pop Culture.
They eat Sushi and don’t eat 1/2 the rice.
They carry Splenda in their purse.
Every 4-5 months they will go to Las Vegas to get away from the “stress” and drama in Los Angeles.
Every 4-5 months they will go Palm Springs to get away from the “stress” and drama in Los Angeles.
They just want a cool guy to keep it real with them.
They are hot and they know it.
I made that list in about 30 minutes. There’s a ton more specifics I could give you. That’s not really the point though.
The point is- I KNOW THESE GIRLS, I KNOW THEM BETTER THAN THEY KNOW THEMSELVES. It extends so far beyond “general small talk.”
Do you see what I mean?
They are my “target audience.”
I can relate to them and understand them on a high level that other guys (and even girls) can’t.
Just by understanding their reality it communicates I’m part of the “IN CROWD” and I’m probably cooler than 99% of guys because most guys are outsiders. I can easily talk about the stuff they dig, if I want. I’m not clueless if they say “Alexander McQueen,” “Coachella,” “Spencer Pratt from the Hills,” “Retail Therapy,” “Showing my Britney,” I know exactly what they are talking about.
Some of these girls CLING ON to guys like me for stability and emotional support. They’ll spend 6+ months as a fuckbuddy when they know it’s not going anywhere (starting mid 2010- I would actually tell them “this isn’t going anyway babe” at 2 months) but they would still come over to my place at regular times every week. I’m able to give them a tremendous amount of emotional support. I’m like a big brother… or even a father… who fucks them.
One super hot Greek actress girl, Alexa, literally had me pick the times that I wanted her to come over and fuck/blow me. She enjoyed it obviously, but she “cherished” the post-orgasm talks that we had. She was really cool. Lexy went back to Connecticut just before 2011.
Like actresses/models, I can relate really well with hot fitness girls and high-status rich girls (who wear those stupid sunglasses, aka ALL OF THEM). I’ve fucked a lot of those girls too.
In the Los Angeles club scene- You are either part of the In-Crowd (Cool guys, Hot girls) or you are NOT. If you aren’t but still hit on lots of women, we call you a “pick up artist.”
On the flip-side, I don’t like hippie/granola girls. I’m just don’t find them attractive nor do they like obnoxious-looking clearly-unintelligent steroid-head douchebags like myself. I make absolutely no effort to learn about them or get to know them. I can’t relate to them. The average hippie guy has a 1000x better chance at scoring with Miss No-Makeup-Out-Of-Shape-High-Sugar-Conspiracy-Theory-I-Don’t-Play-The-Social-Competition-Game-Cause-I-Cant-Win-Granola Girl than I do. Sorry, just keeping it real.
Scotty digs Black and Latina girls. He has an excellent read on them and can get them even better than Black or Latino guys.
Even though they may have good Social Freedom, a lot of guys are stuck because they don’t have any idea what HOT girls are all about in this stage of their life. For a lot of guys, their “target audience” (in general: HOT girls) are like an “alien” to them. They might as well be from another planet. Even with canned lines and staged routines, it’s like they are speaking to an alien life form.
The point is- know your target audience. Know what makes them tick. Know them so well that you are literally a part of their crowd.
“What are you doing… Shopping for shoes or something?” (my line) They get it. In 20 seconds they know that I’m one of them.
In the video below, I’m talking to this ex-model girl.
There are several points in the video where it’s clear that I “understand” her life and communicate that I can relate. It’s not so much of a “DHV” thing, it just shows that I’m part of the “in crowd” among her type-
6:15 – I comment that NYU is a prestigious school. 7:10 – I talk about how the NYU (urban, NYC) non-campus college experience is totally different any most universities. 7:26 – I ask her if she was overwhelmed by New York City. (most new NYC girls call their parents every day and cry) 7:35 – I tell her about my experience in the dorms and most girls have no place to put all their clothing. (girls in NYC constantly complain about this) 7:45 – I ask her if some rich guy paid for her condo. (this happens a lot in LA/NY/Miami, rich guys give hot girls rent so they can fuck them) 8:00 – She says that I’m an “LA Guy,” which I am. So she has caught my vibe and digs it, “…that’s not a bad thing.” 8:15 – I go back to the Jersey Shore pop-culture reference and call myself out on begin a douchebag. 10:50 – I tell her to cancel her ride and we’ll buy her friend “appetizers.” (In LA especially, girls meet up with their friends and only order appetizers because they are cheap and have less calories”
II. Small Talk (General Social Skills, Cool Vibe, Comfort Level)
While “relating to” your target audience on their favorite ‘high-value’ subjects runs pretty deep, the “small talk” (the part that PUA community calls “Social Skills”) is pretty basic.
You basically need to be able to lead an average conversation with a cool, confident vibe.
That shows that you are at least- not weird.
Cool guys can make (and lead) basic conversations with other guys on masculine subjects such as sports, money, girls, cars, etc.
Cool guys can make (and lead) basic conversations with hot girls on subjects that relate to the girls lives.
Remember-
Cool Is A Vibe, Not A Resume
Cool is a demeanor, often meaning laid-back but in control. Sometimes called “Chill.”
This is communicated through your body language and your ability to BE YOURSELF, just as if you were in the comfort of your own home.
Some guys have heard that being “cool” means your well-rounded, such as- you’ve traveled to different cities, you can speak different languages or your have neat hobbies.
If you have above-average Looks, Style, Social Freedom, Swag Factor and can play the numbers game aggressively- you aren’t just “above-average” you are probably top 1-2%. Very few guys can.
Remember- the average guy is overweight (USA), wears nice guy boring clothes, doesn’t speak to women and as a 5.5″ penis. It doesn’t take much to beat him.
I saw something the other day that misrepresented/mistook our stuff, it read-
GLL Says-
“To get the hottest girls, you have to be an elite guy across the board! Makes sense!”
This is false.
You have to have above-average-
Looks
Style
Social Freedom
Swag
… and play the numbers game (hit on 20-30 hot girls a week).
That’s the complete formula to get a consistent supply of hot, yummy, happy pussy.
You don’t have to the “total package,” you don’t have to be the “dream guy” or some sort of “super hero.”
You’ll have to have certain lifestyle factors together if you want to retain these girls for extended periods of time, but you definitely don’t have to be much better than above-average.
With that said- you should strive to be elite. But try to do it for yourself, not for pussy.
Help! I Realize I Have No Swag! What Do I Do?
Just like you’ve developed your Looks, Style and Social-Freedom- Swag Factor can be developed.
Homie- Unfortunately, that will be a topic for another time. This article is already 4600+ words deep.
Link will be here: [insert developing Swag]
This one slightly gets into it from my experience-
“Hot Girls Only Want to Fuck the Coolest Guys”
“Swag Factor: The Missing Piece to Getting Consistent Top-Shelf Pussy” (Video 3/3)
This is of my very best stuff, I suggest you watch these videos.
Give your a whole week to read/watch this discussion.
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“That Girl”:Night Game for Socially-Competitive Hot Club Girls (Related Topic)
At ALL nightclubs and almost all bars, the social competition game is in full-effect. The game is most often played by women. It’s their “night game.”
You know how people say, “She’s just out for attention.”? It’s true. The vast majority of women go to clubs strictly for attention. Regardless if we think that is completely superficial, people have egos and they like to feel good about themselves.
The competition is individual but it can certainly be a team sport too.
Especially at night clubs, girls love being the “hottest girls” in the club. They want the most glances. They want the most free drinks. They want to be the best dressed. If a competing group is getting more attention than their team, they will call the other girls “sluts” and talk about how they are “wearing too much makeup,” and make fun of the guys that approach their rivals. They want to take hot pictures to post on Facebook, where they are just a “lil’ bit” hotter than their friends. While they seemingly dislike it when undesirable guys approach them, they actually like it. They want stories to tell about “that creepy” guy that tired to dance with them. They love to get asked for their number. They cockblock for each other, until guys with equal or higher status join their group. They want to be invited to the VIP section. They want to drink alcohol from the various tables and leave the guys nothing but bill. They go to the bathroom to look at themselves and get compliments from other girls on their hair, dress, shoes, etc. Even the least superficial girls get wrapped up in the competition, no girl likes it when another girl is getting all the guys.
The goal is to command the most attention with their sexual presence. The girl(s) that gets the most- wins.
What a brutal awful sport.
It is what it is though. Be glad you are a guy, they are ultimately playing their little game for you… if you have Social Status.
If you want to fuck them- it’s important that you understand the behavior of hot club girls. I understand these girls inside-out. I’ll even tell them that I use my Social Status to get the same shit they they after (free drinks, attention, free cigarettes, VIP/table, guys trying to talk to me, etc.). On some nights it’s true, on other nights I’m just fucking with them. While that seem likes “DHV” technique, either way- they believe me and I look the part (douchebag) and they assume that I’m super high status… which ironically- I am if I’m having a good night.
As always, you are free to comment and ask questions.
Since I’m mad busy these days, I sometimes won’t be able to answer your questions right away. I’ll try my best. If you have an elaborate or several questions, I suggest you ask in the forum, you’ll get a much quicker response in there.
A popular concept in surrounding this “pick up women” stuff is having and maintaining an alpha “frame”. This so-called “frame” communicates your confidence (or lack thereof) and supposedly is the core behind your words and actions. In general, the idea is to have solid “frame” so you don’t get sidetracked from your goal- GETTING LAID. There is a notion that an alpha frame can be taught – I don’t quite agree but I feel it can be developed if you know what you are shooting for and have an example to follow. Frame, just like any sort of “game” shit, is simply a manifestation of social freedom.
The Executive (CEO) Frame
A wise man once saw one of the “faster/aggressive” videos and commented that I have an “executive frame.”
I had never heard the term “executive frame” before but it’s definitely captures what I’m shooting for. Good thinking, Sgt. Gumbles. Basically, I’m the boss – the girl is the worker. Better yet, she’s the secretary. I order her around (but not in a total asshole way). I interact with her within that dynamic AT LEAST until I screen her and she passes (e.g. grab hold of her hand and she doesn’t stop me). It’s an effective first impression on emotionally-healthy women that like to get fucked by an alpha male with more power than they. What’s also good is that the “boss-worker” dynamic remains throughout the entire relationship whether that be 1 night or several months. She’ll always look at you like you are the boss. Provided you met an above-average first impression, they never forget “how” you picked them up even if they don’t remember what was said. It’s actually kinda funny when I catch a girl in her office attire during the week.
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General Tso’s Chicken (On Friday’s)
Here some things to keep in mind when carrying the “executive” frame-
You are the boss, you give orders (but in a nice dominant way).
She is the worker, she follows the orders (but in a willing feminine way).
You set the agenda, there’s not a lot of time to set sidetracked.
You have to delegate to a lot of responsibilities so you don’t have time to dilly-dally.
Ultimately, we are the same team – we are paid to produce to results.
You mean more to the team though. You are not expendable.
You are paid more too.
You have a bigger office and a nice view of the girls playing in park across the street.
You reward your workers, sometimes.
Every day at 11am she orders delivery for you, from one of 6 different restaurants.
You generally get food the healthy places, you aren’t the fat, slothful boss.
Except on Friday, you get General Tzo’s chicken from the Chinese place.
The company pays for it.
If she’s serious about her work and looking for a future promotion she’ll use the time to impress you.
If she doesn’t do a good job, you’ll find someone that will.
Even if she does a good job, she’s up for evaluation at the end of the month just like every other worker.
You mean business, that’s why you are the executive.
Lets get to the point. Shall we?
You Get Laid because of your job, but don’t rely on that by any means to get pussy.
You aren’t a heartless boss, but you are kinda sleazy sometimes.
You have the discretion to remind her that you are the boss.
I’m not here for your entertainment.
There isn’t’ gonna be a “strike 3.”
Upper management (the CFO, President and Board of Directors) all sleep with the female employees.
If she sleeps with you, she might get consideration for a promotion. But maybe not, there’s lot of competition around here.
Rumor has it that all of her co-workers sleep with you too.
You’ve spent a while with the company but were promoted quickly, which created outrage among older employees that have been with the company since 1987.
To work is an honor.
Outside the office, I’m cooler than you too. And You know it.
Just based on my appearance (society tells me it’s masculine), I go for a ‘more-friendly but alpha’ executive, not the total scumbag boss. Scotty is masculine too, but he goes for the total scumbag boss, he can’t help himself. You can justify either. You might have play around with it to see which your employees respond to better. There’s more to it but I’ll let you think of which parts I left out. It’s not because I’m lazy but because you have a better idea of what the executive frame will look like on you. Not that I owe you an explanation. I’m the boss.
Statements As Questions, Tell Don’t Ask.
This a technique. Don’t think for a second that any sole ‘technique’ (GoodLookingLoser or PUA) will result in ‘creating attraction’ to the point where a girl’s pussy goes from dry like Las Vegas in July to hot like Mexico. Techniques, like frame, are simply a manifestation of social freedom which is arguably slightly less important than your looks. I’m discussing the technique so your gain better perspective on the “Executive Frame” more so than suggest ‘do this’ and you’ll get pussy. Tell Don’t Ask, works like this- Instead of asking questions like, “where are from?” or “what’s your name?” You would say, “Tell me where you are from.” or “Tell me your name.” You TELL the girl to give you the answer instead of asking her. Here are some more examples-
“What are you up to?” = “Tell me what your up to.”
“What are you doing tonight?” = “Tell me what you night looks like.”
“When are you available to hang out?” = “Take a look at your schedule real quick, tell me when you have time open.”
“How do you guys know each other?” = “Tell me how you know each other?”
You get the point. Keyword is “Tell me.” Executives are used to bossing people around, their time is limited so a lot of them don’t ask question, they simple demand answers. Now, I don’t do “Tell Don’t Ask,” all the time. In fact, if you watch the videos – it’s probably a minority of the time. From habit, I tend to do it on the hotter girls. But again, the actual technique doesn’t get the pussy, the overall looks, style and in this case- overall social freedom does (assuming sexual availability).
Rude Executive
Keep in mind that the executive frame is not supposed to come off “rude” or arrogantly. You aren’t supposed to be “talking down” to girls, even if they didn’t score within 799 points of you on the SAT. That is conceited and arrogant.μ If you often find you are getting responses (aka MORE THAN ONCE) such as “that’s rude.” “you’re a douchebag!” or “don’t tell me what to fucking do!” then you’ve probably taken it a little far. That’s okay, there will be a learning curve with this, especially if you are trying to break a “nice guy” frame. Keep at it, but remember- she works for you but you have keep the workers happy so they remain productive – or in this case, turned on. μ – still better than being a nice guy Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.
Semi-Retarded: I’m the Prize! (Popular PUA Frame)
There’s a popular concept/affirmation in the PUA community that states tell yourself that “I’m the prize!” in order to establish and hold a masculine frame. This is groundbreaking to a lot of nice guys that place so much value on whatever girl they are speaking too, especially if they are hot. The problem with that, however, is- that’s a far as the “affirmation” goes. A guy can repeat, “I’m the prize! I’m the prize!” 5,630,210.5 times in the mirror and have it do jackshit for his frame. Rather than talking to a mirror (you know what I think of affirmations) or pretending, try this instead- Image may be NSFW. Clik here to view.BE THE FUCKING PRIZE. Get your ass in the gym and develop a body that women and gay guys masturbate too. Get a cool hobby or two so you have other shit you enjoy in your life. Get a tan. Whiten your teeth (shit I gotta do that). Put on some clothes so that you stand out (in a good way). Lose the glasses Poindexter. (some exceptions) Stand up straight for Christ’s sake. Get the Bathmate and pump up your dick so it rest warmly against your leg when you are talking to women. Be sexy. A minority of guys will say, “that’s superficial!” That’s right. It’s superficial. Women are superficial and so are we. It doesn’t make us emotionally unhealthy. My goal is to GET YOU LAID not “give advice so long as it’s not superficial.” Besides, “superficial” or not. Women are attracted to sexy guys. That doesn’t necessarily mean just the “good looking” guys, rather the guys that “look good.” Like David DeAngelo said, “attraction isn’t a choice!” He just didn’t know what he was talking about.
If you’ve spent time around the Good Looking Loser community, you’ll know that I “teach” something called “screening”.
In short, it is our approach to Getting laid.
Instead of relying on jokes, dialogue and techniques to convince girls to “like you,” you simply go around making normal, sometimes flirtatious conversation, with women and touch them in the process.
The women that are “sexually available” will respond positively (or neutrally) and the ones that aren’t will leave the interaction.
There are number of reasons why is this the best way to Get Laid.
These reasons include, but are not limited to-
You never are “working on” girls and you will know very quickly whether a girl is interested or not.
Get Laid (meeting women) is a numbers game, screening cuts through the bullshit in a matter of minutes (usually, seconds).
There is usually way less approach anxiety because you are approaching women for sex and not trying to get them to “like you,” in which guys tend to feel more vulnerable.
By simply touching a girl, she’ll know that you are a player and not some nice guy pussy boy/funny man pickup artist.
You develop a RAW NATURAL MASCULINITY along the way. You aren’t using techniques to “communicate you are an alpha male”.
Once you are comfortable/realize that the verbal dialogue is hardly part of the equation, your mind frees up and you can easily make small talk/say whatever you want.
Again, our approach to screening to primarily to- Get Laid.
It is not to “meet women” “avoid rejection” “make her laugh!” “get the girl!” “make her think you are interesting” or impress anyone.
Check out every other dating site if you think those mindsets are more masculine.
For most guys- the very concept of screening is a 180 from anything they have thought or done before.
Most of us are used to making jokes, acting out rehearsed “routines” and various other techniques where the goal is to impress the girl and convince her to like you or grant you the permission to continue to speak to her.
So, like anything else in life, that you have just gotten started with- it will take a while to fully internalize.
You’ll just have to go through the motions in the meantime. That’s fine, that’s exposure therapy, that’s how it’s done.
The following discussion covers things that you WILL DO or WILL EVENTUALLY DO to internalize screening and make it authentic.
Like everything else, these insights come from my experience. Some insights were conscious, others are in hindsight.
I don’t necessarily suggest that you “try to” do these, but rather- just keep them in mind and judge your progression on them from time to time. If you are noticing that some of these aspects are becoming your reality, you are on the right track. These might also shed insight on why you aren’t “getting it” and help point you in the right direction.
By no means to you “need” all of these to be your reality to Get Laid over-and-over-and-over, more likely- you’ll be Getting Laid over-and-over-and-over as you work on them.
While these may seem unique to “screening,” these will apply to any type of “game” or approach you take. These are universal and the guys that have them succeed at a high level.
When Does Screening Become Authentic?
I could go on at-length about all of these, but I won’t- I’ll just finger the surface.
#1 You Look Good. (And You Know It)
Looking hot and knowing it is arguably the most important one.
Looks + Style = Sex Appeal.
Notice I said “look good” and not “good looking,” being good looking certainly helps, but simply looking good (in-shape, cool, masculine) will give nearly every guy ‘above-average’ standing with most of society and meet or exceed the ‘looks threshold’ of majority of sexually-available girls.
Being able to walk into a bar and knowing “these guys aren’t as hot as I am” is big.
As narcissistic and superficial as that sounds- that’s reality.
If you are in the process of getting together or MAX’ing out your looks and style- it will take your brain a little while to catch up to the impact that your presence is having. If you have never had a life where girls or friends tell you “[name] thinks your hot” or “[name] thinks your cute,” you’ll probably have to hear or be told that 50-100 times before you actually believe it.
#2 You’re Cooler That Most of the Chicks You Talk To. (And Both of You Know It)
For the analytical guys out there- YOUR COOLNESS should be equal/more than HER HOTNESS.
Remember how I mentioned- when I talk to girls I know I’m cooler than they are?
While it didn’t always used to be this way- it’s gotten to that point.
Developing a cool vibe, isn’t necessarily predicated on developing a cool lifestyle. I know a bunch of guys that do nothing but do cocaine and have sex with really hot girls. They aren’t well-traveled, well-spoken or even interesting. They just don’t give a shit, which instantly sets them ahead of 90% of guys in that category.
#3 You Are Part of or Near to the ‘Top 10%’ of Guys.
We throw around the concept of “Top 10%” a lot here.
It’s usually focused on the aspects of- Looks, Style, Social Freedom and (Coolness).
You can be in the the Top 10% simply by having 1 or 2 of those aspects down. You don’t need to have all 4.
Ideally- you do though.
Guys that have above-average Looks, Style, Social Freedom and Coolness are among the top 1% or 2%. It’s rare.
Remember, the average guy has- average looks, virtually no standout style, doesn’t talk to random girls and is pretty boring, just like his friends It doesn’t take that much to eclipse Mr. Average.
Differing slightly from #1 and #2, it is very important that you are ACTUALLY IN (or around) the Top 10%.
Even if you believe you are a highly desirable man, if the rest of the universe doesn’t- then are AREN’T.
In various self-improvement/’pick up girls” communities there is the belief that “as long as you believe that you’re awesome/look good/good with women, than you are.” That’s complete bullshit.
#4 You Will TRULY Not Be Looking for Validation.
Though the aspects are above may be just slightly more important to building a ‘screening mindset’, this one was BY FAR the most crucial for me.
Screening is not for guys that are looking for validation. It is for guys that want to Get Laid.
Seeking validation is one of the main reasons that guys continue to have a “I hope she likes me…” validation-based mindset. They are just looking to feel better about themselves in the safest way possible and turning to the opposite sex for that.
There’s a number of ways to get past this, one of the biggest ways is to simply get your validation, get bored with it and move on to better things, such as- Getting Laid.
#5 You Have Gained LEGITIMATE Experience.
I like to think my blog can change people’s lives. Sometimes it can.
But the changes don’t happen when you are reading it or watching the videos. Regardless of how inspired you may be.
The changes happen when you are applying (or attempting to apply) the stuff you read.
Like ANY skill or mindset that you are trying to learn, you will have to replace the existing thought patterns with new ones. Some of the thought patterns are pretty stubborn and hardwired from decades of reinforcement.
Screening is no different.
Specifically, you will not adopt screening to your lifestyle unless you legitimately try to work on it in REAL LIFE and retrain your brain to screen instead of acting submissively.
From that you will gain experience. (exposure therapy)
Having good self-esteem almost goes without saying and is a significant aspect to the concepts above.
This will be a battle for some guys but just about everything on GoodLookingLoser.com will increase your self esteem so long as you are able make it a priority and see the job through.
At the end of the day, you are going to have to believe in yourself in order to authentically screen girls to be a part of your life.
Starting to believing in yourself, like self-esteem, can be achieved and increased by setting SMALL GOALS and achieving them ONE BY ONE until you reach your BIG GOAL.
Eventually, hopefully, you will realize that taking women back from bars isn’t super hard and other challenges will seem much more daunting.
#7 You Will Be Comfortable To Express Yourself Physically.
While screening is a mindset and not a technique, if it were a technique, it will go something like this-
TOUCH THE GIRL (is she IN or OUT?)
Though its easy to understand this concept, it can be hard to apply it with complete indifference.
In order to become comfortable with being physical up front, you will have to see it WORK and NOT WORK as part of a variety of predictable responses that women will give you.
#8 You Will Get Bored of Phone Numbers, Dates and Talking to Women.
Similar to getting past the need for validation, getting bored of the “results” that you are getting is generally a phase along the way to developing a screening mindset.
Getting bored of the phone numbers, text threads, dates, interactions that go absolutely nowhere can light a fire under you that makes you get more aggressive.
Remember- Getting Laid is an ALL OR NOTHING thing.
You either fuck the girl, or you don’t.
Some people (that read other dating sites) give themselves points for makeouts, phone numbers, jokes that make girls laugh and compliments they receive.
It’s all meaningless if you aren’t a total beginner.
#9 You Will Know What (Who) You Are Looking For.
Some guys are unable to even begin to develop a screening mindset because they aren’t actually looking for a girl to have sex with.
They are usually just looking for a girl that will be nice to them that they think they can “work on”.
If you are truly LOOKING TO GET LAID, your mentality and actions will be different.
There will be two categories of girls- sexually available girls and sexually unavailable girls.
Whether the girls are nice, mean, extroverted, introverted, happy, sad, funny, boring, etc. won’t even come into play.
It’s nice to find an exciting, cool girl to sleep with – but if your goal is simply get ass, you won’t stand there and talk to her if it’s not gonna happen. Likewise, you won’t be upset if a girl is rude to you. It’s all the same.
#10 Everything Will Seem Predictable.
With experience, you’ll come to see all the “various predictable responses” that you can possibly get.
That’s good to see when you are trying to beat approach anxiety and it’s also good for authentically screening. You won’t be afraid to touch girls because you already know how the girl is going to react. Even if you get a negative reaction, you’ll know that nothing bad ever happens.
Only about half of you guys really believe it though.
How do I know this?
The simple fact that most guys say they want to Get Laid but only talk to 10 or less girls in a week and ask what they are doing wrong.
First- once you truly believe it’s a numbers game, the only stories you tell as the ones where you Get Laid. It’s the only stories you even remember. The rest is a blur.
Second- once you truly believe it’s a numbers game, you’ll know that it’s only a matter of time before you Get Laid. It’s not a matter of IF or WHO, it’s a WHEN.
Stop recording your “sets” like you are some fucking PUA statistician. Go outside and play.
#12 You’ll Know that Girls That React Negatively Have Issues. (and you don’t take it personally)
So long as you aren’t being a total creep, when are girl reacts negatively- it’s her that has the problem.
This takes most guys a long time to realize and believe this. After all, guys are used to blaming themselves when people are mean to them.
I’ve hit on 5000+ girls, the women that reacted fairly positively when I spoke to them were generally happy campers throughout our relationship.
I’ve even slept with girls that initially gave me a negative reaction (or displayed negative behavior sometime soon after).
For the most part- these girls had problems. These “problems” would become more and more apparent as our “relationship” progressed.
I’m so hyper-aware of this now I often don’t call girls back that displayed the slightest hint of “bitch” behavior (to me or anyone else) when I met them.
Emotionally healthy people who don’t have problems aren’t mean to strangers.
Emotionally unhealthy people who do have problems are mean to strangers.
Screening is REALLY effective/authentic when you have your own “bitch shield,” in fact- you can’t get much more authentic than that.
#12 You Will Experience Success (aka Get Laid).
Success will make you internalize screening.
All that you know, or think you know, won’t be internalized until you begin to have success with it.
It is only via success (results) that you are truly believe in what you are doing, how it works and that you making it happen.
This isn’t unlike any skill/mindset that you are working on. You need to have success to truly believe it.
Success, though I strictly focus on Getting Laid, will actually come in bits and pieces. There will be moments when you experience something, process (and hopefully act on it) in a way that reflects a “me first” screening mentality.
Like I say- the numbers game is to your advantage, you have UNLIMITED tries and you can only get better, since exposure therapy and taking action makes you better.
When evaluating your process, if ever, it best to reflect in monthly (or longer) intervals and use the days and weeks to simply PUT IN THE TIME.
At the end of the day, I’d love for everyone of you guys to develop a screening mindset, some certainly will.
But all that matters is that you are happy with life and that you are Getting Laid (if that is your goal).
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